[WhatAmIDoingWrong]

I have been dating this guy for 8 months. Our first month was great the next month started to diminish and now sex is almost non existent. I have asked him what I am doing wrong and he keeps telling me it is stress. It is too the point now that when I get home from work he is on the computer, on his cell phone or on the tv all night. We barely speak to each other because I don’t want to interrupt what he is doing but when weeks go by again and nothing but the flirting and touches I begin to ask again that’s when I get I am nagging and putting more pressure on him. If I say nothing it still doesn’t happen. I am so sick of being rejected when I try to wear things he likes or act sexy. When we have a day off, he is on the computer, cell phone and tv all day and night and there are times he only speaks to me is when he is hungry. We live together so it makes it difficult because i want him all the time. There has been infidelity on his part in his past relationships and i won’t put up with that crap. He tells me he loves me as I love him; but when is enough? I don’t feel pretty or sexy for him anymore and extremely hurt that I get ‘shot down’. We are both the same age (40)and old enough since we have both been divorced with teenage children. I am very petite and do not look my age. I get that I am 16 to 23 all the time. I am fit and slender and exactly his “Type” so what am I doing wrong? What is wrong with me?

[Ask April Masini]

If I’ve got this right, six of the eight months you’ve been dating your 40 year old boyfriend, there’s been no sex. 😕 Now affection is going out the window, and your attempts to discuss this with him are met with complaints of your nagging him. Hmmmm…..Why are you still dating him?

It sounds like the only thing that is wrong with you is that you think you should stay with this guy. You should have gotten out in month three. Don’t waste any more time. You’re cute, you’re smart, you’re fun — don’t allow yourself to wither away because your boyfriend isn’t interested in you any more. Enjoy being single and find a real Mr. Right. As long as you’re involved with this guy, you’re not available for the right guy to find you!!

I hope that helps — let me know how things go.

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