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I feel like I’m falling apart here…

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    fayemeow
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    2 Sundays ago, me and my now ex had a fall out because apparently he thought I had been flirting with one of my rather close friends. After taking him aside and then taking me, I tried to explain how he was wrong and how I treat all my friends exactly the same, male and female, which he has never done this to a girl (I’m bi-sexual) I simply asked him if he trusted me and he replied ”No I don’t” which surprised me so I asked it again getting the same answer, I then told him to piss off and he did. I felt terrible so I spend the day drinking and when I got home he later started talking to me online, while I was still drunk, and it caused a big argument because I wasn’t making much sense and I couldn’t really understand everything he was saying. One of the parts I do remember was he told me he was ”in love” with me.
    The next day we didn’t speak for obvious reasons, and the following one I was going to sort it out but then just as I was about to I received a message from him telling me we were over with no explanation and not giving me much chance to try and fix the situation. I’m terrible with admitting my feelings and waited until the Sunday to message him but then I discovered he now had a new girlfriend, which completely confused me after what he said. It hurts a lot because I’m completely in love with him myself, and I’m unsure as to what I should do whether I should explain myself (now in a sober mind) and tell him how I feel, ask why he told me he loved me then to do this etc, or if I should just leave it and let him be happy with this other girl or anything else… Basically I’m very confused and not sure on what my next action should be, especially seeming when I tried talking to him recently it was not awkward and how it use to be.
    Thanks for listening to my rambling on, anything you could say would help a lot !

    #20017

    Don’t go after him. Let him go. He’s broken up with you. It’s over. And the reason he’s broken up with you is because he doesn’t trust you. 😳 If you can accept all this, you’ll have an easier time of moving on.

    My advice, however, is that you try and understand what went wrong. Either he was completely irrational in his mistrust of your flirting or else you should find a way to tone down the flirting to make any future partner more secure. In other words — is there some behavior or thought pattern here you can modify as a result of what you’ve learned from this relationship? 😉

    I hope that helps.

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