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A few days ago, I accidentally saw messages between my boyfriend and his ex. They weren’t romantic, but they were friendly — too friendly. He called her “hun” and told her he missed talking to her. When I confronted him, he said I was overreacting and that they’re “just friends.” I want to believe him, but my trust feels shaken.
Part of me wonders if it’s harmless, but another part can’t stop imagining what else they might talk about when I’m not around. I love him, but I don’t know if I can ever look at him the same way again.
Is it possible to rebuild trust after something like this, or is it always going to haunt me?

[Sweetie]

Hey, I totally get how you feel. Seeing those messages would shake anyone’s trust. Even if they weren’t romantic, calling her “hun” and saying he misses talking to her crosses a line for most people in a relationship. You’re not overreacting, you’re reacting to something that hurt. It’s hard to unsee that, and it’s okay to feel unsure. If he really cares, he’ll understand that trust takes time to rebuild. It’s not about what he says now, but how he acts moving forward. Watch what he does, not just what he promises. And be honest with yourself too. You can love him and still admit that what happened changed things. Healing starts from there.

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