[Jazzie]

Dear April I am 18 and so is my boyfriend.
the way we met was my cousin introduced me to him .he had dated one of her friends in the past who is 15.He seemed so perfect at first and was so nice always saying what I wanted to hear telling me that he was different from other guys.At first he seemed very different. Well I wanted to get to know him before we started dating and he just wanted to jump right into a relationship. One day a month after we started talking. I called him and he said this girl had asked him out and he had said yes he said that he didn’t like bossy girls like me and that he didn’t like to be single and all this and than the same day he broke up with her saying he couldn’t date her when he still had strong feelings for me.I don’t know if he made up this girl or not to get me to go out with him quicker but we started dating and again everything at first was great . I was the first older girl he had dated he was usually dating girls 3-4 years younger then him and he thought I was quite bossy , but still everything at first was great but now He does alot of things that really hurt me He will say sometimes that our relationship doesn’t feel the same anymore , but then immediately take it back claiming that he loves me and all this. It’s like he is always getting a kick out of me being hurt. Even though he swears he loves me.He always wants me to remind him that he is the most important thing in my life, and constantly demands all my attention. Sometimes I feel like I do more for him then I do for myself. Which I do. Sometimes he will ask me what I would do if he left me and he loves for me to say that I would cry and be depressed and all that and one time I was kidding with him and I said i turn heads everywhere I go and he was like yea right not everywhere and sometimes he is the nicest guy in the world and then sometimes he just seems to love hurting my feelings. He also tells me very often that all the girls love him and that girls try to kiss him and stuff .He won’t even bring his guy friends around me because he is too afraid I will like one of them.Also when I first started talking to my boyfriend he had goals in life he was about to graduate and join the marines now he says that he doesn’t want to go and he doesn’t want to go to college and he is about to go work at walmart he says. Our town is very small and there is really no work here and he just decides that he just wants to not go to college or do anything. Should I stay with him , what is wrong with him, is he insecure or what?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Your boyfriend needs a lot of attention and he creates drama to get it. This isn’t healthy. His need for the attention is more important than his feelings for other people like yourself. He’ll hurt you and others in order to satisfy this need for your attention to him.

On top of that major deal breaker, he now wants to be a deadbeat and do nothing. 😕 This isn’t Mr. Right. Time to move on once and for all. Don’t look back — you can do much better.

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