Dear April,
I am in a confused situation with my ex-boyfriend. We’ve known each other for ~2.5 yrs and dated for 1 yr. That was my longest relationship and it was very special to me. We’ve both been single for ~1.5 years and he consistently says “I don’t want a relationship at this point in my life. I’m 24.” I’m 21 years old and am tired of partying and meeting different guys, things never working out to be anything more than friends or just a hookup. It may be because I live in a popular city, but I haven’t met anyone who’s looking to be in a relationship.
Since he said he doesn’t want to be with me, I have done stuff with other guys. No, I do not care about them nearly as much and don’t see myself dating them. My ex and I talk almost everyday and I haven’t stopped caring about him. After I broke up with him, he was the biggest jerk & some bad things did happen. Lots of arguments.
In June, he moved 3 hours away to work at a new job. He currently hates it and has an interview tomorrow with a different company that could move him anywhere in the U.S. This past weekend I went to visit him & he said “I love you” back to me… the last time he said this was drunk at a football game…then before that only while we were dating. I see this as a positive step. On the other hand, he went through my camera and was upset seeing pictures of me with other guys that were from MONTHS ago. The fact that he’s jealous means he still cares. For 1.5 years I’ve been trying to get back together. Last Christmas, we did for a week until I broke up with him again because I thought I liked someone else (who turned out to be a huge jerk). I do regret this. We have the best sex, maybe it’s because my heart is actually there & we’ve been together for a long time.. He saved pics of me on his phone & I’m the background on his laptop. I’m not sure what to do?
Thank you
