For me, this is like pulling teeth, trying to get you to tell me what you did — so I can only imagine how secretive and not forthcoming you are normally. 😕
It sounds like you’re trying to control him by not telling the truth, and that never works. 🙁 You want him to think you’re a certain way, so you don’t come forth with the truth and you omit or gloss over or generalize, like you’re doing with me. 😳 You’re going to have to start telling the truth about [i]everything[/i] and it’s going to feel uncomfortable and unnatural because you’re not used to doing it.
You’re going to have to expose the person you really are, who you thought he’d reject if he knew. You’re going to have to risk losing him in order to become a person who is truthful. And if you do lose him, then that’s the price you pay for being dishonest. You can’t be a soulmate if you’re not honest. So don’t fool yourself, too. Ironically, that IS the way you might win him back.
Practice every day and every hour and every minute, being truthful. This problem is bigger than just your relationship.
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