Waiting exactly “two weeks” to call someone back is playing a game that only works if both players agree on the rules and most of the time they don’t. The bigger truth April was getting at is this: don’t let a clock replace your judgment. If you actually want the person, waiting just to score points usually looks like avoidance or passive-aggressive behavior. If you don’t want them, then by all means wait (or don’t call at all). But if you do want them, be honest and be timely.
Practical rule of thumb: if you’re genuinely interested, reach out within 1–3 days. That’s long enough to avoid the “I’m desperate” vibe, and short enough to show you care. Two weeks? That’s the kind of delay that signals disinterest or that you’ve moved on. Only wait longer if there’s a real reason travel, emotional cooldown after a fight, or you need space to think not just because you read some “rule.”
How you reach out matters more than the exact hour on the clock. Keep it simple and clear. A short text that gives him a gentle opening and an option to meet is better than an overwrought call or a passive “hey” that begs for attention. Examples you can use:
“Hey, been thinking about our conversation. Want to grab coffee Thursday? Hey, I’d like to talk. Are you free this weekend? Hey, it’s me. Quick question, do you want to meet up and talk this week?”
If he was the one who left things unresolved and you need time to cool off, tell him that: “I’m taking a little time, but I want to talk next week.” That’s honest and sets the boundary. If he ghosted you or messed up, waiting can be a test but even then, don’t weaponize two weeks. Use the time to decide what you want, not to play psychological games.
Don’t wait two weeks just because you think romance has a timer. Be timely, be clear, and act from a place of preference (I want this) rather than strategy (I’ll wait to seem valuable). Want me to draft a one-line text tailored to your exact situation? Say the word and I’ll keep it short and to the point.
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