[tgbp1000]

I’m a 23 year old guy. I have never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl or never been on a date. I have even tried dating websites with no success.

A little about me. I am a civil engineer with a good job. I don’t drink, I am waiting until marriage for sex, I am athletic (have run a 4:13 mile), I have $250,000 and I am a really nice, down to earth, easy to talk to guy.

I am beginning to wonder whether the girls I am seeking (ages 20-23) are just not that mature yet and don’t see the good qualities I have or are just intimidated by who I am.

I am just really looking for a nice, mature, confident girl who shares my same values.

Thanks for any answers.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re right that a lot of people, aged 20-23, are not ready for marriage, however….. some are. And, you have to find them! I’m not sure how long you’ve tried, but you have to give the dating process time. But more importantly, you have to find women who are compatible and not waste your time with those who aren’t.

Not wanting sex before marriage is something you can find out about on dating sites, (either in the woman’s profile or in chat and e-mail) before you even go out to dinner with someone. So, do. And don’t waste your time with someone who doesn’t share your belief.

If you have family and friends that you trust, tell them you want to be fixed up with someone, and tell them what you’re looking for. You can also attend singles’ groups at your place of worship, and at other venues where women you might be interested in might be as well.

You sound like you have a lot to offer, but you can always hone yourself by looking great, having a great home and getting out and about and frequenting social events where singles will be.

I hope that helps.

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[tgbp1000]

Oh, I’m not looking to get married now. I first want a relationship so I can get to know the person and eventually marry after getting to know them for a few years.

Also, my decision to wait for marriage is not religious, I am Catholic but am religious by no means. I’m just hoping someone will appreciate my courage and self control to abstain because obviously 99.99% of people want to have sex including me.

I’m just thinking that some of my qualities are scaring away almost all girls.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

They’re scaring away the wrong girls. The right girls will find these qualities to be attractive. 🙂

[tgbp1000]

It’s easy to say, but are there really any “right” girls. I know I need to be patient, but how long do I keep hoping for the right one to come along. I don’t want to be 40 and still never gone out on a date.

What else can I do to improve myself and why are there so many “wrong” girls?

Thanks

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Read Date Out of Your League, the book I wrote for men who want to win the dating game. It’s going to help you and answer your questions in detail. Here’s the link: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url].

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