[Mrxinsanfran]

I finished a long 2 year terrible divorce in June. I haven’t lived with my ex-wife since oct of 2009. While I was with my ex I met a girl, and chatted with her, and decide that if I ever found myself getting divorced I was going to call her. Back ground on my marriage we didn’t click, and only were married because of a child together. The divorce was rough because of a custody fight, and splitting of money that I had made in my 20’s I’m 31 now. 3 months after my split from my ex I called the girl I had meet while married. I was up front with my situation, and we dated 6 months, and for the first time in my life I was in love with a woman. Then one night she asked my how much longer my divorce was going to take to be finished. I was honest and told her my lawyer said it could take another year. She looked at me said after tonight I can’t see you again. I didn’t understand at the time she was telling me the truth then she was gone. In the months that followed I left messages sent text messages and emails no answers. One night I asked if she would just come over and hook up. That got a response, but the response was I can’t believe you think so little of me that you would ask that please delete my number. Fast forward to after my divorce I asked if she would see me for coffee and I did get a response, but she said no. Is there anyway to get this girl back? I’ve dated many girls over the year after she broke it off with me. Is there anyway to when her back? I’m settled in my new house, have my daughter 15 days a month, and really want to see this woman again.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like you she broke up with you because she wanted to be serious, as in possibly get married, and she didn’t want to wait a year for your divorce to come through. That was her bottom line. Now, you’re divorced and legally single.

You did some damage by overtly asking her to have sex with you without a commitment. That cheapens her in her mind, and I think you didn’t understand what you were doing when you did it. But now she doesn’t think you value her.

If you really want her, and you understand that she wants a serious relationship that could lead to marriage, then my advice is to show her HOW serious you are. I’m talking about sending a dozen roses with a card that says, I’m legally single and there’s no one I want to be involved with in every way — except you.

See if that works. And please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[Mrxinsanfran]

Question, how do I go about seeing her again without being creepy guy that just shows up at her door

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Do what I suggested, above. Send her roses. She’ll call to thank you. Ask her if you could take her out for a drink or dinner sometime. 😀

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