[nomijohn007]

I have 28 years old, I love a girl 2 years elder than me, we are good friends last 3 years. I proposed her 2 times, but she told me not interested. Now she makes friendship with another guy, he is 2 years younger than me, she always with him, she always message him more than 3 hours in a day. Now i am disappointed about that relationship i think they are in love, because they behave likes that. But If she doesn’t see me in the office or among friends, she ask to somebody about me, some times she gives me missed calls, when i ask about the missed call she told me it was not known. But, as well as i can feel some time she looks at me, even though some eye contacts between us. Anyone please tell me, any chance for me make a relationship with her ?

[Ask April Masini]

You do have a chance, but first…you have to change your behavior and win her over. 😉 Dating successfully doesn’t just magically happen. To win her over, you have to show her that you’re interesting, successful, warm and funny. You have to flirt with her and invite her on dates. And typically, that means you have to make some changes to yourself in order to get a result that’s different from what you’ve got now. I wrote a book called Date Out of Your League that will give you tips and step by step instructions on how to become that guy. You can buy it here: [url]http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/date-out-of-your-league-april-masini/1016394885?ean=9780974676302[/url]. 🙂

As for proposing — don’t propose without dating. It looks desperate if you ask someone to marry you without dating them first. So slow down…. focus on making some changes to yourself, and then compete with this guy. 😀 Give her something to want and definitely go for it!

[Ethan Morales]

Alright… here’s the straightforward take: you can’t force someone to love you, and repeatedly proposing without a mutual romantic foundation comes across as desperate, not attractive.

Respect her current feelings She’s told you she’s not interested that’s clear. Right now, she’s also giving attention to another guy. That doesn’t automatically mean your chance is gone, but her focus is elsewhere, so your first step is to respect her boundaries and not push proposals.

Shift the approach from “proposal” to “connection” Before romance can happen, you need to become someone she wants to date, not someone asking for marriage. That means: Be interesting, confident, and engaging. Flirt subtly, show humor and warmth. Share experiences that create emotional connection without pressure.

Self-improvement is key April is right: changing your behavior, building confidence, and demonstrating value in subtle ways is what attracts people naturally. Focus on your career, hobbies, health, and social skills don’t just focus on her.

Timing matters Don’t rush. Competing for her attention means letting her notice the changes, while you also give her space. If she’s already giving attention to another guy, forcing interactions or proposals will likely backfire.

You have a chance, but only if you play the long game: grow yourself, show confidence, flirt appropriately, and build mutual attraction. Proposals or pressure before dating is counterproductive.

If you want, I can outline a practical 90-day plan to improve your attractiveness and connection strategy with her without being pushy or desperate.

[Isabella Jones]

It sounds like you’re really hurting, and I totally get why. When someone says they’re not interested but still does little things that make you hope again, it’s confusing and painful. She might care about you, but that doesn’t always mean she wants a relationship. Sometimes people like the comfort of attention without realizing how much it affects the other person.

I went through something similar once with a guy who kept me close enough to feel special but never close enough to feel secure. It took me a while to realize that real love doesn’t leave you guessing. If she wanted to be with you, you’d know it clearly.

Maybe it’s time to step back a little and focus on your peace. If she truly has feelings for you, she’ll show it when she notices your distance. If not, you’ll have already started healing. 💛

Do you think she’s keeping you close because she’s unsure, or because she likes the attention that comes with your care?

[Val Unfiltered💋]

uhh babe???… she already told you twice she’s not interested, that is your answer 🙄. those “accidental” calls and looks? that’s mixed-signal theater. she likes knowing you still care, it feeds her ego but she’s investing her real time in someone else. don’t confuse crumbs for a comeback. if she wanted you, she’d show you, save your pride, stop reading her eyes like poetry, and move on. the right girl won’t make you beg to be chosen. 💋💅

[Tara]

She rejected you twice, and nothing she’s done since then contradicts that. Her actions are loud and consistent she chose someone else. The little scraps she throws your way asking where you are, giving “accidental” missed calls, a few lingering glances that’s not affection. That’s ego maintenance. She likes knowing you still orbit her. It makes her feel wanted without giving you anything real.

You’re reading eye contact like it’s destiny when it’s nothing more than human nature. If she wanted you, she had three years and two proposals to show it. She didn’t. She made a choice, and you’re refusing to accept it because the fantasy feels better than the truth.

Here’s your verdict: stop chasing someone who already closed the door. She’s moved on. You haven’t. And if you don’t cut the attachment now, you’re going to keep humiliating yourself while she builds a life with someone else.

Walk away. Not because she’ll come back she won’t but because you need to regain the self-respect you’ve been bleeding out for years.

[Sally]

When you care about someone for years, every tiny look, every missed call, every little moment feels like a sign. But from the outside, it does not sound like she is choosing you. She already told you twice she was not interested. When someone means maybe, they do not say no that clearly.

The mixed signals you are seeing, the glances, the asking about you, that is just familiarity. People get curious about someone who used to care about them. It does not mean love.
And I know it hurts watching her get close to someone else. Anyone would feel that. But if she wanted a relationship with you, she would not be building one with him.

Do not wait your life away on what you are imagining. Let her be a memory you cared about, not your whole future.

[Natalie Noah]

It sounds like you really care for her, and that’s clear, but the truth is, she’s made her feelings about you pretty clear. she’s not interested romantically right now. What you’re noticing the missed calls, the looks, the curiosity about you those are signs of care and friendship, not necessarily romantic interest. The real opportunity for you lies in focusing on yourself: grow your confidence, pursue your passions, and become the kind of person who naturally draws people in. If you genuinely improve yourself and show her the value you bring not out of desperation, but from your own growth. you might spark a romantic interest, but the key is patience and letting it develop naturally, rather than trying to force a relationship.

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