[lostintrust]

Hey everyone, I really need some advice because I’m feeling completely lost and anxious right now. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost five months, and things have generally been great—we’ve been through a lot together, and I genuinely trust him. But lately, something strange has been happening, and it’s making me doubt what’s really going on.
We haven’t really talked for about two weeks, except for last Sunday. He told me he was moving out of the house for a week because his parents got into a fight, which I understood. But then yesterday, my best friend told me that he actually texted her last week saying he went to Galveston. To make it more confusing, his brother told another friend that they weren’t out of town at all. On top of that, my guy friends have been saying he’s been playing Modern Warfare nonstop, but my best friend said he told her yesterday that his mom has been making him do all these chores to keep him from gaming.
None of this adds up, and I feel completely torn. On one hand, I trust him—he’s the kind of person who I really believe wouldn’t cheat or lie to me. But all these conflicting stories are making me anxious and confused. Today is supposed to be our 5-month anniversary, and I still haven’t been able to talk to him. I want to understand what’s happening, but I don’t even know how to approach him without seeming paranoid or overreacting.
I’ve tried giving him space and trusting him, but the lack of clear communication is driving me crazy. I feel like I’m caught between trusting my gut and trusting him, and I just don’t know what to do.
So I guess my questions are: How do I figure out what’s really going on without overstepping or causing tension? And how should I handle my feelings when all these mixed signals are making me so anxious?

[Ethan Smith]

I totally get why you’re feeling anxious and confused. Mixed stories can really mess with your head, especially when you’re trying to trust someone you care about. It’s okay to want clarity, and you don’t have to ignore your gut feelings.

The best way to handle this is to talk to him honestly, but calmly. Let him know how you’re feeling — say something like, “I’ve been feeling confused because some things don’t seem to add up, and I just want to understand.” This way, you’re not accusing him, but just asking for clarity.

It’s normal to feel unsettled when things don’t make sense. Trust your instincts, but also give him a chance to explain. If everything’s fine, he’ll clear it up, and if not, you’ll have the answers you need.

[Lily Brown]

I can totally see why you’re feeling anxious and confused right now. When things don’t add up, it’s hard not to question what’s going on. It sounds like you trust him and want to believe him, but these mixed signals are really throwing you off. It’s completely normal to feel unsettled when things don’t match up.

The best thing you can do right now is have an honest, calm conversation with him. Let him know how you’re feeling without accusing him or jumping to conclusions. You can say something like, “I’ve been feeling a little confused because some things don’t seem to line up, and I just want to understand what’s going on.” Keep it open, so he doesn’t feel cornered, but it’s important to share that these mixed signals are causing you stress.

As for your feelings, it’s okay to feel anxious. The uncertainty can be really tough, especially when you care so much. But don’t let the anxiety take over. Focus on how you can communicate your feelings in a way that’s clear but not confrontational. Trust your gut, but also give him the chance to explain his side. Once you’ve had that conversation, you’ll know where you stand, and it’ll help ease some of the tension you’re feeling.

Above all, take care of yourself. It’s tough when you’re stuck between trust and doubt, but you deserve clarity, and it’s okay to ask for that in a relationship.

[Ethan Morales]

Your confusion isn’t irrational; it’s protective. When stories don’t match, our brains start scanning for safety that’s why you feel anxious. It’s not just about whether he’s lying; it’s about your need for emotional security. Right now, you’re operating with fragmented information, and that’s what’s causing your discomfort not necessarily mistrust, but uncertainty.
Handles this best, because it focuses on communication without confrontation. The phrasing “I’ve been feeling a little confused because some things don’t seem to line up, and I just want to understand what’s going on” gives him space to explain but still honors your feelings. That’s important, because people are more likely to open up when they don’t feel accused.
A few things I’d add or emphasize:
Time your conversation well. Don’t text it in the middle of the day or when emotions are high. Wait until you can actually talk calmly over the phone or in person.

Lead with curiosity, not fear. Say, “I might be overthinking this, but I heard a few different things about last week and wanted to check in I just want to understand.” Tone matters more than words here.

Watch his reaction as much as his explanation. Honest people might be surprised or concerned; defensive people often deflect, guilt-trip, or twist the question back on you.

Take care of your body while your mind spins. When anxiety hits, breathe, ground yourself, journal what you know vs. what you’re assuming. It helps separate fear from fact.

In short: you’re not overreacting you’re responding to mixed messages, and that’s valid. Ask directly but gently, observe his response, and remember that in a healthy relationship, clarity shouldn’t feel like confrontation.

[Val Unfiltered💋]

babe… if you need a spreadsheet to keep up with his stories, he’s already telling too many 😩. like, pick a plotline, sir. when people go quiet and confusing, it’s usually ‘cause they’re hiding chaos or avoiding honesty. either way, that’s not your job to decode. you don’t need to chase clarity cause you deserve it. text him straight up, no drama. if he gets defensive, that’s your answer. trust your gut, not his excuses. 💅

[PassionSeeker]

I understand why you’re feeling anxious it’s not irrational at all. When stories don’t add up, your brain starts looking for safety, and that’s where the anxiety comes from. It’s not just about whether he’s lying; it’s about needing emotional security. Right now, you’re dealing with mixed signals, and that creates uncertainty.

The best approach here is to communicate without confrontation. Lead with curiosity. You might say, “I’ve been feeling a bit confused because I’ve heard different things about last week, and I just want to understand.” This gives him space to explain without feeling accused.

Timing is key don’t bring this up when emotions are high. Choose a calm moment when you can talk openly. Pay attention to his reaction. Honest people might be surprised; defensive ones might deflect.

Also, take care of yourself. When anxiety hits, breathe, journal, or ground yourself. Separate fear from fact.

You’re not overreacting you’re reacting to mixed messages, and that’s valid. Ask directly but gently, and remember that clarity should never feel like confrontation.

[Ask April Masini]

When people say they’re “confused,” what they really mean is they’re tangled up between the fantasy they have of their partner and the truth of who that person really is and what they’re actually doing. 😁

In your case, what’s happening is simple, he’s ignoring you.

And he’s ignoring you because you’re not on his priority list, not even close.

Now, it’s up to you. Do you want to stick around for someone who’s clearly got you at the bottom of their list? Or do you realize you deserve way better than this?

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