[Anonymous]

I been dating my bf for 2 yrs already. Laately it haven’t been the best. Were going through rough times for the last half a year. Recently I meet a friend through a game application. I never seen him before. Until this week because he is transferring to my college because he just got of the marines. He currently have a gf as well. 2 yrs also. I had fun meeting him n I can’t stop thinking about him. Although he said I’m cute. Idk if in doing wrong but I haven’t done anything bad. And for the Moment we talked online, I wanted to meet him badly. I just thought he was cute. Now that I met him, I can’t stop thinking about him. we have talked on the phone but never really flirt cux we are both taken.I’m probably confuse and taking things wrong. But for the past few months I haven’t have a great relationahip w my bf. Any advise on how to have a better relationship w my bf. N any advise on how to take things easy and continue having a normal friendship with ny friend.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m not sure what caused your relationship to go through rough times over the last six months. If you can fill me in on the nature of the problems you’re having, then that would help me advise you how to get your relationship with your boyfriend back on track. Also, tell me how old you both are.

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[Anonymous]

Im 19 and so is my bf. My friend is 23. And problems between me n my bf caused this. We kiss still n evrything but i dont feel those strong feelings i want to feel. The problems started when we were on crisis n he asked his girl friend to give him advice about our relationship. I didnt like the fact that my bfs friend told him to leave me. So i made the big mistake on telling him to pick between us but he didnt. I was so mad obviously. Before we had violent problems. One day i slapped him n he got so mad that he slapped me back to control me cuz i was out of control. Ever since that; 8 felt so dissapointed n fear that itll happen again but i dont think he would because over this time he felt horrible n apolized. . Now i want to get back on track n see how i can improve this relationship or if not.. ?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It’s understandable that you feel betrayed by your boyfriend’s friend who suggested he break up with you, but you have to remember that your boyfriend DIDN’T break up with you in spite of this friend’s advice, so while you’re hurt, the reality is he didn’t take her advice. He chose to stay with you.

Your desire to get her out of his life is clearly territorial on your part, and again, understandable, but since he didn’t get rid of her, you shouldn’t give her any credibility. By fighting about her, you’re giving her a lot more weight in the relationship than by just ignoring her. My guess is that eventually, if you do ignore her, she’ll fade away. I know it doesn’t feel like it, but you won that last round when she advised him to dump you and he didn’t.

The violence, however, is of concern, and you should not ever hit anyone or allow yourself to be hit.

All that has nothing to do with the fact that your feelings for this man are waning. Since you’re only 19 years old, it’s normal for you to not be ready to get married or be in a long term relationship. You may want to see what else is out there, and this other guy may be an indicator that you’re looking elsewhere for experiences.

My advice is to follow your instincts and and if your feelings for your boyfriend seem to be fading, and your interest in this other guy stays, you should consider that it’s time to let go of the long term relationship and date other men to see what else is out there for you.

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[Anonymous]

You’re right. The girl that gave him the advise kinda faded away. Another points is that it might be true that I want to experience other things ( with someone else) but I don’t want to make the mistake called “don’t leave someone that you love for someone that you like”. however the fact that I got slapped back by a guy hasn’t gone out of my mind. There’s times that I feel disappointed. And wonder if it’ll happen again. I agree that it was my fault. Sadly. He got tired of it.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Time will tell you whether or not you want to continue to date your boyfriend. So go easy on yourself right now. You don’t have to make a decision on this right now. You can continue to get to know him and yourself, and to make a decision as your relationship evolves.

As for his hitting you — it sounds like this is going to be a deal breaker for you. You should not have hit him, and if you’ve done this before, acknowledge your problem. As for him hitting you back — that was not your fault. It’s his. You both are old enough to be responsible for your actions.

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