If he’s filed for divorce, and his mind is made up, you may not have a choice. 😥 But if he hasn’t filed, or if he’s willing to try reconciliation, you have a great opportunity to decide what you can do to make some changes in your own behavior. 😀 For instance, if you are jealous and emotional and this is causing strife in your marriage, then you have to learn to control your emotions. 😉 Stop behaving in ways that express your jealousy and heightened emotions. 🙂
You also have to accept responsibility for your part in the problems. Instead of blaming him for rupturing a cyst on your ovary during sex, it’s probably more realistic to say that the two of you were having sex together, and at that time, a cyst on your ovary ruptured. Blaming him for this problem that you were involved in, isn’t a good idea. 😕 If you were or are having pain during sex, then you need to take responsibility for that and see a physician to get the help you can. It was a big mistake on your part to agree, or encourage him to find sex outside the marriage, instead of taking care of yourself, and your sexual relationship with your husband. 😳 Now, you’re upset that he has these relationships with other women that you told him it was okay to have. And if you want him back, and you know that asking him to see his phone messages starts fights, simply stop asking to see them. 😉 A contract is not going to work, but you should understand that it’s your attempt to control his behavior. So, instead of trying to control his behavior, my advice is to change yours, and give him something he wants, and someone he wants to be with. 😎 That’s the most surefire way for you to get him back.
I hope that helps!
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