[masako]

Hey guys…i am desperate…

I am with my boyfriend for a year now and we love eachother alot although we had problems in the start as he had a girlfriend when we met and had to break up with her. Well we fell so deeply in love that 2 months ago he gave me a ring and we decided to start a family too. Now i have to say that he is from the states but we live in europe and he is an afroamerican and i am caucasian. His ex lives in the states. 2 weeks ago he had to go back to the states to see his family and for business and he is staying there for 8 weeks. Since he got there he istalking to me just 5mins every time and doesnt even call, he just texts,he always says he has no time to skype but he has time to hang out and party with his friends. What he tells me bout his schedule never sounds right, and i found out that his ex is still living in the same apartment (they used to live with another guy sharing the apartment) cuz she didnt find a new place yet….she obviously wants him back and is making trouble ever since between us,but he promises they are nothing but friends and i should not worry bout her at all…the other thing is that his family is not ok with him dating a white girl. I took a vacation he knew bout next week so i can go and see him,but he is avoiding the topic.i have the feeling he doesnt want me to come cuz he cant stand by me cuz all his friends just know him being with his ex the past 5 yrs, his mom doesnt even know we are together. AND I am pregnant! We were both very happy when we found out 3 weeks ago but right now i feel very alone and am scared i will end up raising this child alone. I dont wanna put too much pressure on him but i need clearance and it seems to me he is not able to make me feel good bout it anymore.
We talked bout me coming again…he doesnt want me to come visit because that “would cause too much stress” and he doesnt want me to meet his mom before the baby is here…..GREAT OUTLOOK 🙁

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m sorry you’re in a jam, but you’re on your own here. He’s making it very clear that he doesn’t want you in his life right now, and since you’re having a baby, you need to focus on your priorities. You’re worry is disappointment and hope that he’ll come back and be who you need him to be. He won’t. It’s best that you accept that now so you can move on with your life. 😥 My advice is that you prepare to be a single mother and understand that he’s not someone you can count on. 😳

Let me know how things go.

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