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Hello,

I am 22 years old and i just graduated from university. I’ve sorta been alone all my life, i dont have much luck with women and i am tired of being single and alone. I have only had 1 girlfriend in the past which did not end well and i havent had much dates in the past. Its actually been about 3 years now since i last went out on a date! My question is, how hard is it to find a smart, beautiful, nice, loyal, kind, funny woman to share my life with?

I dont know i just keep thinking that one day ill meet that person i want to be with, i guess that is sort of idealistic. I realize the first step is to get out there and get dates and meet people but thats sort of where i am stuck. I dont know how about to approach that. Im sort of an introvert, i dont have much dealings with other people. Besides a couple friends, heck i dont even talk to them much anymore, i dont talk to people unless i necessarily have to. Furthermore, i never have anything to say to anyone, guys or girls. I just go about doing my stuff, trying to achieve stuff for personal gain. I guess that is part of the problem is it?

Thanks,

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you don’t talk to people, you won’t have conversations that help you get to know them! And if you stay in the groove you’re in, you won’t ever get out. It’s your choice to improve your life or not, and I can hear that you want to — but you don’t want to do what’s uncomfortable for you. Dating is work, so decide to roll up your sleeves and make today the day you start doing things differently!

Go to a coffee shop and talk to people. Go to a park and talk to people. Make sure you look great and you smile at women you find attractive. Compliment them. Ask them questions. Go to parties, and join activities that you’re interested in — from political to charity to after work to sports groups!

If you’re still stuck, read the book I wrote for men who want to win with women, Date Out of Your League, for tips and advice that will help you get out of your rut. Here’s the link to buy the book: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url].

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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