[Kraezy18]

It sounds bad, I know. I’m a senior in high school and we go to school together. He has a girlfriend who he’s been seeing since maybe October or November. She got pregnant and is due in August. My classes changed this semester and we have English together. I had an immediate attraction to him and I knew he did to me as well. Early in the year I heard he thought I was hot multiple times but I had no clue who he was. When I saw him I just could feel the connection between us. Thats when the texting began. It’s a big sexual connection but we also connect on an emotional level. At first we just talked as friends but the flirting became hard to suppress. I love the rush of sitting next to him in class knowing he shouldn’t be rubbing my leg or holding my hand under the desk. He has a bad past with doing drugs and I can tell he is hurting on the inside. He says he loves his girlfriend and I believe he does but we hung out the other weekend and hooked up twice. It was amazing. This shows me that he must not be completely happy with her. He admitted that to me. He said they fight all the time and her parents hate him. He had told me many times that I make him happy and he doesn’t want to lose me because he does care about me. There have been a couple times when he won’t text me for days and we just orbit each other and I hate it. I won’t ever text him first because I don’t want to show how bad I want him. Right now we haven’t talked and he wasn’t at school today. Last week he asked me what I expected to come from this and I told him I wanted to take it day by day because he is going to be having a kid with her and there’s basically no way for us to be together. He said “if me and my gf didn’t work out would you be there for my baby and stuff” and I said of course. Having a kid doesn’t mean your life is over. I do wish that his gf wouldn’t have gotten pregnant though. I know I am going to be hurt when I see their baby. I already am hurt somewhat. Some days he makes me so happy and some days I feel like he is an asshole who wants to have his cake and eat it too. I just don’t really know what to do at this point and I need advice.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re not in love. 😕 You have [i]an attraction[/i] to a guy — you’re young and you’re both hormonal, and you don’t have a lot of experience. I get it. But guess what? You’re going to be attracted to lots of guys in your life — even one day after you’re married — but, that doesn’t mean you should act on the attraction. You can admire guys without doing anything about it — and most of the time, you shouldn’t because sex changes things. It makes women a lot more invested and a lot less clear on what’s right and wrong for them. Having sex too soon — and too soon means before you date a guy for a while and get to know who he is — clouds your judgment. And that’s whats happened to you.

If you were a little more clear, you’d know that hooking up with a guy who has a pregnant girlfriend he’s cheating on, and who has a history with drugs — is a bad idea. It’s a bad investment for you. 😉 I guarantee you that he’s cheating on you, as well as her — this isn’t someone who has great morals, and while sex and romance and hormones can make you feel certain things, you have the opportunity to make choices, and making a good choice for yourself when it comes to romance and sex — is very important. 😉

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[Kraezy18]

Hello. I don’t even know where to start. I started talking to this boy in December. I don’t know what it was about him but its like I was drawn to him. Something about him was different I thought. Anyway his parents kicked him out and his step dad hit him in the face and then next thing ya know he is at my door with his things. I knew us living together would be bad in the long run.. But my family are I took him in because we are good people. It was awesome at the time. But things starting changing in my head. I began doubting everything and taking things out on him that we’re totally not even me. It got to the point where I wasn’t having fun. I was so emotionally stressed and felt trapped. I was losing myself and I need freedom. He needs too much attention. There are so many things goin on in my life with my dad being addicted to crack.. And in the hospitle on his death bed almost my ex couldn’t even be there for me. That sad part is that I didn’t want him to be. I didn’t look at him the same or even think the same. So I had to tell him to leave. We haven’t even talked since he left. I feel sad and relieved. I’m 17 he’s 19. So I’m asking you, why do I feel so old and lost already. How should I think about all of this.

This isn’t the same person as my previous post this is my best friend.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’ve been through a lot in your 17 years, and it’s really important for you to focus on what you want in your life. You’ve got a lot of drama surrounding you, and it’s what you’ve grown up with and what you’re used to. I’m going to give you a goal, and if it sounds right to you — use it. Here it is: Put all your energy on graduating high school. I’m guessing college isn’t an option if your father is a drug addict — so the next step is that the moment you get that diploma, you go to the nearest big city and get a job that makes enough money for you to get an apartment with a couple of girls. No roommates with addictions, criminal records or any digressions that are going to be bad influences. The trick is to stay focused on making a great life for yourself, and surrounding yourself with healthy people. Once you do that, THEN you can start dating — but only guys who have no history of drug use, and who have healthy lifestyles and good jobs that they love.

If you can do that, you’re going to be in much better shape than you are now, and you’re to be on a path to success in life. 😀

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