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Incredibly messed up situation

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    Lt1z28
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    Ok, where do I start? I met this incredible girl about a month ago, and did something I wouldn’t normally do, and almost regret. She’s in an open marriage, and I ended up hooking up with her, and agreed to a fwb sort of situation. Since I’ve met her, I’ve met her husband, and have been to her place quite a few times. Her husband obviously really doesn’t care what she does. Well, it seems like over the course of seeing her, feelings have developed between us. Very intense feelings, and we seem to share so much in common. It’s so incredibly screwed up.I’ve noticed a lot about her; she’s obviously not happy with her marriage, her husband treats her like garbage and really doesn’t seem to care about her much at all. I can tell she’s incredibly lonely and depressed, and it seems like he’s made her suffer quite a bit.

    So here I am, in the middle of all this, her falling for me, me falling for her, in this incredibly screwed up situation. She also has three kids to complicate things even more. If it weren’t for that I’d tell her to divorce his ass, but things aren’t that simple. I’m 24 and just fresh out of college and she’s 29. It’s messing with my head terribly; she’s literally the girl of my dreams and while the logical choice would be to pull out of the situation, she’s so perfect and wonderful that I really don’t want to do that. There’s this magnetic attraction between us that I can’t explain, and I just couldn’t bare to leave her. At this point I’m not sure what to really do….

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    You’re not just hurting yourself and her, you’re hurting her kids. 😳 The marital problems that she and her husband are having are their own challenge — not yours.

    You’re an adult and the three children are innocent victims. 🙁 My advice is that if you can’t see that your dating a married woman with three young children is a problem, and neither can she, then at least do right by the kids and step away from their mom and dad.

    You can make this “incredibly messed up situation” a lot less messed up by walking away and not going back. 😉 Do the right thing — not just what feels good.

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