[iaj32]

Sorry this is so ridiculously long, but I want to give you all the details so you can properly analyze the entire situation for me.

I was sitting in a coffee shop a few weeks ago when a guy who worked there approached me and started talking to me and then asked if he could take me out that night. We ended up going out for ice cream and we really hit it off. Turns out we have a lot in common and a lot of similar interests. He texted me later that night thanking me for coming out and said he had a great time. He texted me throughout the week and was really sweet and very friendly. He kept emphasizing how nice it was to find a nice Italian girl (he’s Italian too) and how much we had in common.

We live in different cities so we made tentative plans to go to a baseball game the following weekend when I was in town again. He told me he couldn’t get tickets, so I told him that was fine and that we’d do something else. So we made plans to do dinner instead. Later he texted me that he had a big problem, that his friends had gotten tickets to the baseball game and that he felt really bad about it. So I told him it wasn’t a big deal, that my sister was going to the game too and so I’d grab a ticket on Stub Hub and that maybe I’d see him there. He offered to pay for my ticket but I told him I’d pay for it and thanked him anyway. Anyway, we ended up sitting together and talked for a while, he introduced me to all of his friends who were really nice, and then later I left to grab a bite to eat with my sister. My sister invited him to join us but he declined since he rode there with his friends. He texted me all that night.

The following night we were going to do dinner but he had had a long day and wanted to watch the basketball game and asked if we could go to a sports bar instead. I said that was fine and we ended up having a pretty good time together. He asked if I wanted to watch a movie and if I wanted to just rent one or go to the theatre and see one. The theatre in that area is kinda sketchy so I told him we could rent one and just watch it at his place. He lives with his parents (he’s 21 and a student; I’m 24 and live on my own but I’m moving back in with my parents in 2 weeks) so I figured it would be fine. He introduced me to his mom when we walked in and she was pleasant. During the movie we started making out and I decided to tell him we should slow down before we went any further. He stopped when I asked him to but then started asking me a bunch of sexual questions and he seemed surprised that I wasn’t very sexually experienced. After the movie I left and went back home and he texted me to ask if I got home safe and to say good night.

I didn’t hear from him for a few days after that so I texted him “Good morning” about halfway through the week. He asked why he hadn’t heard from me and I told him I had been busy. He then made a few crude jokes, so I told him that if sex was all he wanted he was wasting his time because he wasn’t going to get anything from me, and he apologized and said he was just joking around. After that, he texted me pretty regularly during the week and said he couldn’t wait to see me again and wanted to get together when I was in town again. Anyway, we both ended up being kinda busy and haven’t been able to get together at all since that night we saw the movie but have been texting each other pretty regularly, most of the texts being initiated by him. Saturday night we were going to get together but then he flaked out at the last minute, saying that he was really sorry but he couldn’t get together that night. He then texted me “We can still have some fun…do you have a camera on your phone? 🙂” I was aggravated and not in the mood so I told him it was broken.

The next day I texted him asking him what his deal was and he said “I dunno, I like you but I have so much going on right now and I feel like it’s unfair of me to talk to you when I can’t give you 100% of my attention.” So I told him I understood and that it was hard living in different cities anyway. So he asked when I was moving back to his city and I told him two weeks and he put a little smiley face. To be fair, he IS a very busy guy and constantly has something going on between work, school and all of the other things he’s involved in (coaches basketball, involved with Special Olympics, works out regularly). But I can’t help but feel like he’s brushing me off. I haven’t heard from him since and he never accepted my friend request on Facebook. Everyone I know that also knows him tells me what a great guy he is and how nice he is, but they’ve never dated him. Do you think he’s just a player? A user? Just immature? Or did I do something to scare him off?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He’s not that interested in you. 😳 If he was, he’d make an effort. Time for you to move on. 😉

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