Hi,
I have been married for 10 years and have always been happy in my marriage until now. My husband and I became friendly with our neighbors. We go out to eat with them, cookouts, birthdays ect. Well for the last few months my neighbors wife has been showing a lot of attention to my husband. She emails him all the time nothing sexual just asking if he’s seen certain movies or if he wants to come over and hang out with her husband. There was one time when she asked my husband to go see a band with her because her husband didn’t want her to go alone. She also constantly talks to my husband on Facebook. Last Christmas we gave our neighbors a liquor basket for the both of them but she bought a present just for my husband. The other day she made cake and gave him some. When I ask my husband about it he says that they are just friends. When I tell him that it bothers me when they email back and forth and I ask him to stop he says I’m trying to control him. What do you think? Am I overreacting?
You’re definitely not overreacting. Your neighbor is making a play for your husband, and your husband appears to be crossing appropriate boundaries. I’m not sure if he’s having sex with her, but he’s not being loyal to you.
My suggestion is that the two of you stop seeing these neighbors altogether. It doesn’t matter what he says to end it, he just has to end it.
