[liia]

This might be long. I met a guy at work, we are both very young. I am more of a introvert and he is shy only around me.
Despite this, we were talking to each other for a while until I had hurt his feelings and he began to ignore and avoid me.
His next move was to start flirting with my teammate, whom I think he likes a lot.
I apologized to him, and later on he started to come around & have brief conversations with me, whereby he’d show me videos, selfies and a his graphic designs.
In other cases, his back is mostly turned to ME so we don’t speak to each other, or until my teammate gets to work.
**Generally, he flirts with other girls real easy and he’s used to them being up in his face and over-protective of him.**
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We used to catch a glimpse of each other as he /myself passes by. We would also have brief physical contact, like a hug, a dance or such during the times he ignored me more which made me confused and upset.

What is he trying to bring across with his actions towards me? **Showing off, brief conversations, opinionated questions, light-hidden physical contact, and plain-sight ignoring and avoidance.**
Thanks for reading!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]What is he trying to bring across with his actions towards me?[/quote]

He likes you! These are all things guys do when they are interested in you.

I hope that answers your question for you. Let me know if you need anything else — and if you do write again, please include your ages, as that always seems to help with advice. 🙂

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[liia]

Thanks for your quick response. I still need your support.
As for our ages, I just turned 22 years and he turned 20.
There is still an underlying issue of me being absolutely frustrated and irritated by his behaviors.
He sits right next to me , so it is very bothersome. Before seeking your advice, my friends concluded the fact that HE IS NOT INTERESTED.
Not to be negative, I have come to believe this thought. This is the most recent scenario & I’d like your help :
He goes through the whole day without acknowledging me, I consult him on something business-related and he seems very uninterested in the conversation . At the end of my shift he has a playful conversation with me.
He behaves the same way the next day, but still does not acknowledge me all day, only my teammate that he flirts with and so forth .
My question : How do I tell him that his actions are frustrating, and he seems fake without me being rude?
**I just want an end to the situation**

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]My question : How do I tell him that his actions are frustrating, and he seems fake without me being rude?
**I just want an end to the situation**[/quote]

You don’t. 😕

If someone’s actions are frustrating and you feel that he’s ingenuous, the best and most polite thing you can do is to ignore him and not make a big deal of his behavior. 😉 Calling attention to it just creates drama, and because the relationship you have with him is officemates, it’s important to keep things peaceful at work. You’re not close enough with him to warrant telling him that he’s frustrating you and acting fake. If you did, it would be the same thing as you making this two wrongs — which doesn’t make a right! 😉

Also, if you ignore him and stop focusing on his behavior, which you don’t like, and which is really kind of harmless from what you’ve described, the situation will end. In other words, while you can’t control him, you can control yourself, and by changing your own focus, you’ll be ending (or at least limiting) your interest and energy in any relationship you have with him. When you extend your communication with this officemate, you’re keeping it from ending. 😀

If you just put your focus on other things, he won’t seem as important in your life. 😉 I know it’s difficult to ignore people you work with, but remember. You said he just turned 20. He’s barely out of his teenage years, and lots of young men are not as mature as you are, and they aren’t as practiced at flirting and dating, and he may be just trying out behavior with women to see what works for him. That doesn’t mean you have to like it, but it doesn’t sound like what he’s doing is harmful, so I think it would be best if you just forgot him and moved on with your own attentions.

I hope that helps. Let me know what happens.

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