[mindy10]

I met a boy at a party a week ago and I’m 18 and he’s 24. We really seemed like we hit it off. He walked my friend and I to our car and asked for my number. He texted me and asked if I got home ok and I responded. The next day I texted him and told him that we were going out that way again. He then told me that he was going to his friend’s party. He really wanted me to go because he kept egging it on. My friend and I went to the party and the same thing happened. He was very sweet and this time he hugged me goodbye and asked if I was interested in going on a double date (one of my friends and one his). I said yes and we didn’t plan anything at that time. He asked me to go to his soccer game but I couldn’t so he told me when they were and to come anytime I wanted. I asked him if we were still going to go on a date. He said yes and we made plans to do so. That was the last time we talked about seeing each other. I asked him yesterday if we were still going on the date, which was suppose to be today, and he told me not tomorrow because he had a paper to write. That was it. He didn’t mention anything about a different day. I was thinking about going to his soccer game thursday, but I don’t know if I should because he didn’t ask to see me. What do I do??????

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He definitely likes you — but that doesn’t mean he’s Mr. Right. And that’s an important distinction for you to have under your belt. There are lots of nice guys, cute guys, confident guys, etc. And many of them will want to date you. But it’s the guy who can actually make a date, show up with a rose or some flowers for you, take you out on that date and bring you back home without incident, who is the guy you’ll ultimately want to be with.

I know you’re only 18, so dating is relatively new to you, but just because a guy is polite and nice to you, doesn’t mean he has the goods. You’re not too young to read Think & Date Like A Man, a book I wrote for women who want to be successful in dating — and I hope that’s you! 😆 Here’s the link to buy the book for $15.95: [url]https://www.askapril.com/dating-advice-books.html[/url]. It’s an automatic download so you can start reading now!

In this book you’ll learn a lot about successful dating, including one of my favorite tenets: Don’t chase men! You shouldn’t be asking him if the date is on or not in any way. You shouldn’t be enabling his dating challenged behavior. When you step back and allow him to be the man who wants to chase you because he feels good about then having caught you (the ultimate prize), you’ll see who he is and how he behaves. I know this is new behavior for you, but it’s going to help you a lot so you won’t have questions like this one.

I would suggest not going to the soccer game since he blew off your date without having the wherewithal to tell you until you asked if the two of you were still on. 😕 Let him come after you if he wants you and that way you’ll know FOR SURE his intentions.

I hope that helps! Join me on AskApril.com on Facebook for more April. I’d love to have you there, and it’s free! Here’s that link: [url][/url]. 😀

[mindy10]

I read this too late! I asked him if he wanted me to go and he called me and was very nice, acting like he really wanted me to go. He made it sound like a legit soccer game but apparently it was just some stupid open field thing that him and his friends do. He thought he was inviting me to play or something but when I figured that all out he told me to still go. So I went and it was a complete waste of my time. It was my friend and I sitting there watching him and his friends kick the ball around. When we were leaving he asked me how often I was going to be in that town (that’s not where I live or where he lives) and I said that I’m there whenever I want really & that once school started next month I’d be there all the time and I was moving out there. He then said “ok cool well I’ll call you up next time I’m up here and we can go to a party or something or just hang out” and he gave me a hug and that was it. Was he just planing on using me for my body or what? Do I not talk to him at all anymore?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Take my advice, and get Think & Date Like A Man, like I recommended last time you posted. Here’s that link again: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. It will give you everything you need to know when dealing with men. It also supports the website and allows me to continue to give free advice, so buy it for BOTH those reasons! 😆

It also doesn’t seem like you read my advice in addition to not taking it! 😕 You have to let the man do the chasing, so now that he knows where you live, you don’t have anything to do but sit back and live your life according to Think & Date Like A Man. Don’t call. Don’t text. And DON’T ask him out.

I hope that helps — and please join me on Facebook. Here’s that link; [url][/url]. 🙂

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