[lunaticchemist]

So there is this guy, on the same sports team as me since last quarter (we are both in college). I never talked to him much until 2 weeks ago, when he responded to my facebook posts, and we started talking. First about different kinds of diet, then sports, then school. I’m one of the only people on the team that he would approach and talk to, before/after practice. We haven’t talked that much in person since there isn’t too much time before/after practice to talk, but we have been texting back and forth. We subtly flirted a bit on the text, but not really in person. He seems like a shy guy, doesn’t talk much around girls, but I’m bad at reading guys. I also don’t feel like waiting for him to make a move, I have many regrets on that in the past. Should I just go up to him and say “Hey (xxx) you’re nice and funny, I would like to get to know you better, would you like to go on a date with me?” Would it be weird for a girl to ask a guy out? Should I just keep it at “you’re nice a funny, i would like to get to know you better” and see his response? Is 2 weeks too short of a time to really know someone? What if he says no, will things get awkward? Thank you!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]Should I just go up to him and say “Hey (xxx) you’re nice and funny, I would like to get to know you better, would you like to go on a date with me?” [/quote]

No! Instead….. flirt with him! Flirting lets him know you’re interested in him and that you find him attractive. It also lets him see a side of you that you don’t show everyone else. It’s a little more intimate than just being on the same sports team. 😎

[quote]Would it be weird for a girl to ask a guy out? [/quote]

It’s not weird — but it’s not something I recommend. Here’s why: Men love to chase women. They want to win you over and show you off. If you ask him out, you’ve taken away his opportunity to chase you, ask you out, get a yes, and try to get you to go out with him again. Men feel great about themselves when they win a woman over. Let him. And if he doesn’t, then you know he’s not that interested.

[quote]Should I just keep it at “you’re nice a funny, i would like to get to know you better” and see his response?[/quote]

No. Flirt, flirt, flirt! 😉 Let him know you’re interested, and if he’s interested in you, in the same way, he’ll ask you out.

[quote] Is 2 weeks too short of a time to really know someone? What if he says no, will things get awkward?[/quote]

Two weeks may be too soon for him to ask you. Give it some more time. And if he says no, yes, it will be awkward, but it’s better to have loved and lost then to let an opportunity slip by without giving it a shot! 😉 Nobody ever died from a little awkwardness. 😆

I hope this helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

[lunaticchemist]

Thanks April! I’m bad at this type of stuff, can you possibly give me some pointers on flirting? I do agree with your last point, in the past I have let too many opportunities slip away, still wondering what could have happened if I did something.

[lunaticchemist]

Another question, how often would be too often to be texting each other?

[lunaticchemist]

And also, would anything change if he was more outgoing than shy?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]I’m bad at this type of stuff, can you possibly give me some pointers on flirting?[/quote]

Flirting is a way of playing and letting someone know that you like them as more than a friend and you find them attractive. Laughing at all his jokes, will make him feel great. Giving him your best smile lets him know you’re happy to see him. Complimenting him is always a feel good technique that works. See how easy this is? 😆 Check out the book I wrote for women who want to win at dating, called Think & Date Like A Man: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. You can also buy the book on the websites for Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

[quote]Another question, how often would be too often to be texting each other?[/quote]

That really depends on a couple of things. If you’re texting instead of seeing each other in person, that’s not a good thing because you want to unavailable enough that he’ll want to date you in order to see you! Don’t initiate the texts — let him do that.

[quote]And also, would anything change if he was more outgoing than shy?[/quote]

Uh…. yes! If he was more outgoing, he’d probably be quicker to contact you than if he was shy. That seems obvious — am I missing something in your question?

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