[eliz21]

I want your opinion of this topic. A year and a half ago I met my current boyfriend. I love him, hes very sweet, kind, and romantic. However, I can’t seem to forget what he told me a month after we met. He mentioned that he was living in a house with three guys who are gay.That completely shocked me! He said he met them at the gym, he was looking for a place to rent and the owner of the house said they had a room available. He said he didn’t know they were gay until he moved into the house(which I doubt). I began to question him because I saw that he went to the gym Alot!! He took very good care of himself as well. Another day he mentioned that he had a lot of gay friends, but that he had nothing to do with them. I notice that he had a lot of guys that could be mistaken as being gay by the way they walk, speak and dress. At this point, my fear grew even more. What’s even worst is that many people actually think he (my bf ) is gay. I’ve talked to him about this many times, and he always tell me hes not gay and that he has nothing to do with that. My question turn to…Is he bi? I stopped talking to him about this because I wasn’t getting any where, but that though is still running through my head. Funny thing is that before dating and talking to him, I said “Hes a cute guy, but there’s something about him… a little feminine”. I said that because he moved his hands a lot and walk straight and a little funny I would say. Well right now, I’m still with him. I have that stuck in my head and prevents me from moving forward. He moved from that house, stopped going to the gym, began going to church with me, and changed a lot overall. I don’t know if he did it out of love or because I kept talking to him about this topic? He’s been saying he wants to marry me for a while now (he started telling me about 5 months after we started dating).

What do you think? could he be gay or Bi? Would a straight guy do this? Am I over reacting? or there’s something fishy about this?

I would like an honest opinion, what is your fist thought after reading this?

I appreciate your time!

Worried Girlfriend

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The bottom line here is that you’re having trouble trusting him. It doesn’t matter whether you’re wondering if he’s gay or if he’s cheating on you or if he’s secretly married to someone else. If after a year and a half of dating, you’re not sure if you can trust him to tell you the truth about who he is, how are you going to trust him if you do marry him?

I think you’ve got a flashing yellow light in your relationship and this isn’t about him being gay or bisexual — it’s about you not being sure you can trust him to tell you who he is.

You’ve answered your own question — you don’t trust him. I don’t see how you can possibly have a relationship with someone you don’t trust. This is always going to be in the back of your mind if you get married and have kids. Time to move on and find someone who you feel is right for you — and that means someone you trust, and who trusts you.

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