My gf and I have been dating for about 3 years… I’ll admit, initially, it was mostly lust.
I’m not sure if our issues stem from our lack of similar interests, or from me potentially fearing commitment. Ya, I said it. Commitment.
She wants a ring. I want to escape the boredom that has become our relationship.
We have a friendship, but it’s not really based on what normal ‘dating’ relationships would be… I don’t get excited to hang out with her, and she doesn’t (hasn’t ever) seemed excited to see me when I show up. (But she sure seems needy & wants time with me per all her text messages). I feel a friendship with her because she is a ridiculously nice person, to the point where I feel bad if I don’t call back or text back… which then sends her into bouts of insecurity.
I just don’t feel the energy or excitement I felt with women that I have dated in the past (none are in the picture now… this is monogamous). And its not just sexual… the energy is blah even for non-sexual interactions.
The sex is okay… she’s got great genes… but it never feels like she initiates anything. Ever. In fact, her idea of enticement is entirely hinged upon the brand of lacy underwear. She might as well be wearing plaid sweatpants, because she behaves the same in those as she does wearing something from V’s Scret… boring. Passive. Indecisive. Ugh.
Me? I fear I might be giving up the nicest person I’ve ever had a relationship with, simply because she bores me. I’m no Casanova, but sheesh. It’s a death-spiral of boringness. Even when we have a weekend somewhere to spice things up… I don’t feel the fire. Which causes me to lose interest… which begats more boredom for both of us.
A friend told me to man up and call it off… But my relatives love her, and wish I would go ring shopping.
Point me towards the light. Please.
