This situation highlights how someone’s personal burdens can completely affect their ability to maintain a relationship. She clearly cares about you, but with her mom’s illness, financial stress, work pressures, and the possibility of pregnancy, she’s under immense emotional weight. When people are that overwhelmed, withdrawing or going MIA is often their way of coping not a reflection of their feelings toward you. It’s her way of protecting herself from more stress, even though she clearly has strong feelings for you.
Your frustration is completely understandable. You’re invested, caring, and trying to be supportive, and it hurts when your effort isn’t met with consistent communication. But this isn’t about you failing or doing something wrong. This is about boundaries both hers and yours. After repeated patterns of missed plans and lack of clarity, it’s reasonable to step back. She hasn’t given a clear answer about critical matters, like the potential pregnancy, and at some point, prioritizing your own emotional well-being is necessary.
The bigger lesson here is about timing and emotional availability. Chemistry is important, but so is stability and consistency, and she’s not able to offer that right now. Continuing to wait indefinitely or chase answers that may never come could harm you emotionally. It’s okay to let this go while still holding compassion for her situation. Protecting yourself in this way doesn’t make you unkind it makes you wise. Going forward, being clear about intentions, observing patterns, and knowing your own limits will help you avoid investing deeply in someone who isn’t ready to meet you halfway.
