[Hitman44]

I’ve been seeing this girl that I met at our church that I really almost every week or so in beautiful park for 2 hours to practice guitar. We’re both beginners and basically learn off YouTube. We text a lot, our guitar sessions are usually some playing and mostly conversing , I mean there are signs that she throws out via text and in person that suggests that she might be interested (like starting conversations first via text, talks about her personal life, asks me personal questions and actually meeting me for 2 and a half hours every week or so!) but I can’t confirm for sure! I made an attempt this week and asked her for the first time something other than playing guitar to come out to a ball game with me and my team since we had free tickets but she said her weekdays are rough because of her new teaching job, which I understand. How can I not ruin the thing I have with her now to find out if she really is interested? It’s kinda unhealthy the way I can’t stop thinking about her and her always showing up in my dreams, it’s just that there could be something and there could be nothing and I’m torn to somehow find out! Please help

[AskApril Masini]

I think it’s great that you asked her out on a date — but she gave you a clue that she’s busy on weekdays. Why not ask her out on a date for a weekend? Tell her you’d like to take her to dinner or a movie on a weekend — is she free this Saturday? If not this one, how about next weekend? If she’s interested, she’ll give you a yes, and if she’s not, then she’ll either come right out with a no, or give you an excuse of some type. But your job is to ask her out — that’s how you’ll know if she’s interested in dating you or not. 😉

Don’t worry about ruining what you have, because as you wrote, it’s not healthy to be obsessing about her without asking her out. If she says no, then you know she’s not your Ms. Right, and if she says yes, then you’ve got a date! 🙂

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