[quote]Why would he be honest with me and not with the other girls he’s been with? [/quote]
You don’t really know if he’s been honest or not with anyone else. In fact, if he’s telling you he’s usually dishonest and this is a rare spot of honesty, you should really think twice. 😮 If he’s usually dishonest with other women, what makes you think that at some point he won’t be with you, too? I know it’s making you think he’s treating you specially, but if you’re using honesty as the bar for whether or not you’re special to him, you’re missing the mark. When a man wants to make a woman feel special, he’ll buy her flowers, go out of his way to do things for her, and he’ll treat her like she’s on a pedestal. That he’s being honest with you should be a baseline, not a high mark.
[quote]Please April, do you think there will ever be a chance of us really being together as boyfriend and girlfriend? [/quote]
It doesn’t sound like he’s asked you out on a date. Unless he does, it’s hard to imagine him as your boyfriend. 😕 That’s going to be the sign that he likes you as more than just someone to hang out with or hook up with.
[quote]Do you think he’ll ever commit?[/quote]
It sounds like you’re both young and you’ve said that he’s been with a lot of women. That, coupled with the fact that he isn’t asking you out on a date, and is instead just hanging out with you, and he’s told you he’s not interested in a relationship…. all point to a no. At least not for a while.
When men tell you they don’t want a relationship, it’s wrong to ignore them. I get a lot of letters from readers like you who hear a man say he doesn’t want a relationship — and then they continue to invest in him emotionally and try to create a situation that belies what he said. 😳 The next e-mail I usually get from women in your shoes is one that says he’s giving you mixed signals. 😕 They’re not mixed signals. They’re clear signals. He doesn’t want a relationship, but he likes hanging out with you. He isn’t dating you or treating you like a girlfriend, but he may sleep with you because you let him.
If you’re looking for a boyfriend, he doesn’t sound like a sure thing. But if you continue to hang out with him, you’ll probably have some fun, develop feelings for him, and then become heartbroken when he doesn’t make you his girlfriend. 😳
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