You have a deep connection with this guy through years of friendship, long talks, frequent texts, and shared experiences. That’s a solid foundation, but the inconsistency in his behavior, sometimes intensely present, sometimes disappearing for days, creates confusion and emotional uncertainty. His reassurances and conversations about the future may feel comforting, yet they don’t align with his lack of physical intimacy or consistent effort, which makes it hard for you to feel fully secure. It’s natural to want more than just friendship, especially when the emotional bond feels so strong.
The most important step here is clarity. You deserve a straight answer about his intentions and feelings. While it may feel risky to ask him directly, it’s the only way to know whether he truly sees you as a potential partner or just a very close friend. Continuing in this limbo can be emotionally draining and prevent you from experiencing the kind of reciprocal, committed relationship you want. Honest communication is key. Ask him clearly what he wants and how he sees your relationship, and be prepared to make choices based on his answer, not just your feelings. This will give you the clarity and empowerment you need to move forward, either with him or toward someone who matches your desire for intimacy and consistency.
