[Anonymous]

First of all, how is everyone? I’m new here and I just needed some sound advice. So my problem is that I have a crush on my Manager. I don’t know what he feel towards me. I’ve been working there since May of last year.

He’s a pretty friendly guy, laughs a lot with everyone, very easy going person. He asks me a lot of questions, questions I would classify as weird but I don’t know what everyone else would think about those questions. Like he’s asked me what I think about babies. I thought that was a weird question. He always asks me what else I’m planning to do with life like if I’m going to go back to school or not. I get that he’s probably just trying to make conversation when we’re working alone but I always have a thought that he might be interested. I don’t know and it drives me crazy!

Other clues: we had a belated christmas party a couple of weeks ago. He commented that looked nice but it was in front of my other co-worker. Then later he came by us (my coworker and I) and we talk about life. Again about what I’m doing (with my art portfolio, etc.) He told us about his life and he also talked about my other co-workers too. He said he was thinking of opening his restaurant and he always goes to eat at restaurants. He asked me if I knew of any restaurants around where we live cause he just moved to town a year ago. Again it could be my total childish fantasy but could he want more? Also throughout the night he kept coming by me and standing by me. Feel free to yell at me for being so childish but I can’t help it!!

I know this is a little long but I’m almost done! So this friday my friends and I are planning on going to a restaurant and I was thinking of asking him if he wants to tag along. I know for a fact a bunch of my co-workers all hang out together. Would it be totally weird if I asked him? Remember he’s my manager!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Don’t ask him out on a date. ❗ It’s a really bad idea for a couple of reasons.

First of all, if you ask him out you’re taking away his opportunity to ask you out. All my regular readers know that one of the secrets to getting a guy is to let him do what makes him feel great, and for men, that means giving them something to chase. Men love to chase women, win them over, and feel like they’ve gotten the best prize on earth because of the great man they are. When you ask him out, you cut him off at the knees from being that great guy.

Second of all, since you’re already confused bout how this guy feels about you, taking away HIS opportunity to ask you out is going to increase your confusion. If you truly want to know if he likes you enough to date you, give him the opportunity to do just that — don’t take it away from him!

Thirdly, it’s always tricky business to get involved with someone you work with, and if you’re not sure about his intentions, it’s probably best to let well enough alone.

So while it’s cool that you’re crushing on your manager, don’t ask him out.

And while you’re not asking him out….buy my book called Think & Date Like A Man, and read it this weekend! You can download it immediately right here for $15.95 [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. You’ll get a lot out of the book that I wrote for women who want to get the man of their dreams — and keep him. Dating will be A LOT easier for you after you read this book, so my advice is to get it and read it.

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