[alex_tryingthis]

I’ll try to be honest and short. I’ve never lasted more than three weeks with anyone romantically. Something about new relationships always fizzles out for me. This week, though, a girl I’ve basically grown up around made a move. We’ve spent almost every day together since. It’s been intense but natural: long conversations, hanging out late, getting physically close. She’s told me she likes me multiple times, and I like her back, but I’m second-guessing everything because of my past.
I’m trying to be practical. One week is obviously a tiny amount of time to learn someone’s patterns, boundaries, and how real compatibility works. At the same time, chemistry and shared history count for something; we have years of context that newer couples don’t. So I find myself stuck between two instincts: rush toward what feels amazing now, or slow down to see if the connection holds when novelty fades.
What I’ve tried: I’ve purposely suggested quieter plans, tried to avoid hypertexting, and asked small questions about expectations, but I haven’t asked the big one — exclusivity, or whether she wants “official.” I don’t want to scare her off by moving too fast, nor do I want to let insecurity make me bail before something real forms. Is a week of intense, daily time together too short to consider being official? How can I test whether this is a genuine start or just a spark that won’t survive routine? What’s a respectful way to ask about exclusivity without turning everything awkward?

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