[BitBySweetness]

Im not sure if this guy wants a friendship or more.
I invited J along with some other other co-workers and friends to a comedy club to celebrate my birthday.
I’m 32. J is 50, new in town and recently divorced (wife cheated on him). We talk at work. He always comes up to me and makes a work-related comment, and he’s mention to me that some of my co-workers were sayin shit about my work habits and it upsets him. I invited im because he’s new, doesnt know a lot o people, and tought he’d enjoy a fun night out.
At the end of the night, he grabbed my bill ($30) from my friend who was gonna pay it, and told her not to worry about it he’ll cover it. During the night, he and I took a picture together, and he put his arm around me. He’s put his hand on my shoulder a few times at work.
I gave him a Thank You card for payin my tab. He asked how I found out it was him, and i told him my friend told me. He made a comment like she shouldn’t have told me. I included the pics of us (i did this to everyone gettin a thank you) and told him i wasnt sure if he wanted those. he said oh i’ll definately keep them.
Later as I was talkin to a footwear co-worker, he comes to us and shows her the pics. She made a comment about comedians not makin her laugh, and he made a comment that he liked the first one because of the sexual examples. At least I think he said liked. I also found out he’s very tight with his money.

I get the feelin like he’s interested but not sure if its friends or hinting something casual. I wanna show him im open but scared. I’ve been burned before, and havent dated for 3 year..

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Well, your friend is definitely interested in you, and I agree that you should show him your best self and give him something to chase. Flirt with him, and let him know you’re interested, but don’t you make the next move! Let him ask you out if he’s interested in asking you out. That’s how you’ll be certain that he wants more than just to be nice to you.

As for your fear of being burned again, keep that to yourself. There is absolutely no reason for you to let him know you’re afraid to become involved because you’ve been burned in the past. We’ve ALL been burned in the past, so your burn is not unique. Get over your past and focus on what you’ve learned, how you’re conducting yourself differently since that burn to date smarter, and only talk about positive things on the first couple of dates.

You should also consider reading my book, Think & Date Like A Man, for more guidance on finding, getting and keeping Mr. Right. You can download the book here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. I recommend my readers read this book when I think it will help them with their particular dating situation, and I especially think you’d benefit from reading this.

Good luck! 😀

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