Hello.
I’m having some trouble figuring this girl out.
I have had a crush on a co-worker for some time now and finally worked up the nerve to ask her to lunch about a month ago and she accepted.
Things went well and I suggested maybe hanging out some time. She agreed to this, too.
Due to a conflict in our schedules, the date was planned for Feb 3rd. In the interim, though, I kept asking her to lunch once a week.
Before the Feb 3rd date, I expressed my interest in her openly, so if she wanted to back out she could. I did this mostly because I wasn’t getting the vibe she had an interest in me and didn’t want her to come out and do something she wasn’t really into. She said she only had interest in friendship and was still up for going out. I’m ok with this, but my problem is that I don’t think she actually likes me… AT ALL.
Sometimes, when I am talking, she will make this strange face as one would make if annoyed. I’ve seen it a number of times and it’s discomforting since I don’t really do that much talking about myself unless she asks. Mostly, I ask her things and listen to her.
When she came this past Friday to hang out, we grabbed dinner first and during conversation, I saw this face a lot. When we finally got to the show, she made it apparent that she had no clue what I had planned for the night… even though I had told her about it previously and she seemed quite bored…. lots of yawning (I took her to the Princess Bride: A Drinking Game. Seemed like light-hearted fun). Needless to say, I felt awful and paid for everything since I felt like I was wasting her night. However, on the way back to the car, she said she had a great time and even talked about a next time.
She invited me to a Super Bowl party she was hosting tonight, so I accepted the invite. Aside from her, I only knew one other person at this thing. She spoke to me briefly when I arrived, but didn’t speak to me again until I was leaving.
So, does this girl just completely dislike me? I’m ok with being friends, but I’m not ok with someone just being nice for the sake of being nice. It makes me feel like a joke and I’m not sure what to do because I do like her.
