[mango]

hi i feel strange even doing this but may be you could shead some light on my question and from what i have read this is like every man’s question first love my wife millions we have two great kids we dated off and on for about four years but first let me say that when i first saw there goes my wife to skipp foward a little we have been together for allmost 10 years befor we got married for 5 years and here goes befor and when we and just gotten married sex was amazing we fit perfect every time we had sex i made her happy you know what i mean she is a very healthy in that way lets say she keep a smile on her face days . but we have had our share of fights and blow up and some times over simple silly things and every time we have a blow up it seams to push us apart our kids keep us strong but we are not conneting like we use to or we haver’nt connected i have to say there have been some un for sean events with family members which put a strane on my wife and ultmately on us we have’nt had sex in over three months i have’nt done any thing to bring this on she just stoped wanting to have sex i am a good father a good husband i give her complements and lots of huggs and kisses i tell her what a great job she is doing i buy flowers and gifts when i can but i think i love my wife more than she loves me she is not very effectionate the only times she gets that way is when we go out and have drinks then she is all over me like the way we were but when the night and the bear and wine wears off the next day she becomes quiet and some what distance my self on the orther hand never change, i went from beeing a strong veral healthy sexual man to not so strong man and it is noting thing i did dont get me wrong i could still get it up for hours is just lately she dose not want be to perform for her what should i do thanks

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m going to trust that you’re doing everything you say — wooing her with flowers and gifts and being kind and paying attention to her even when you’re not in bed. The other things you can do are to try and seduce her. There’s a book I wrote for couples who want to put the X back in their sex lives, called Romantic Date Ideas: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/romantic-date-ideas.html[/url]. Buy it (it’s only $8.99), read it and try it. It will give you lots of ideas to implement or riff on to make you both feel more sexual and connected.

If none of that works, then sit down and have a talk with her — but don’t put her on the defensive. The subject is sensitive enough that her natural instinct will be to come out swinging if you put her in the corner, so to speak. Instead talk about yourself. Tell her how you feel and what you want (her). And leave the door open for her to tell you if something’s been bothering her that she hasn’t told you to date. Then, consider making deals — deal making is one of the great compromise tools in marriage — for instance you may not want to do something like spend money to put in a new bathroom in the house or buy her something she’s been aching for, but maybe you can work something out…. within the marriage. 😎

Basically, you have to try what you haven’t tried already. Please let me know how things go, and follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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