[Ethan]

My wife is a loving person, but she is also relentlessly critical. She critiques the way I drive, the way I dress, my taste in music, and how I do chores. It’s never a big fight, just a constant stream of “helpful suggestions” and negative observations about how I could be doing things better. I know she doesn’t intend to be malicious—she genuinely thinks she’s helping—but it’s starting to wear me down. I feel like I’m constantly being judged and can’t do anything right. How do I tell her that her “help” feels like constant criticism without her getting defensive?

[Mira D’Souza]

Living with someone who’s always critical is exhausting, and it’s easy to start doubting yourself. Their words can stick, making you question your choices and even who you are. But your worth isn’t defined by their criticism.

It’s okay to set boundaries and gently call out what hurts. Make space for yourself—spend time with people who lift you up, and remind yourself of your strengths and accomplishments every day. You deserve to feel respected, safe, and valued in your own life. Don’t let anyone make you feel small.

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