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I am dating this guy whom im working with,our relationship was all fine exept one day when he decided to go through my messages and found the other messages from onother guy well we fought about it untill i accepted that yes i was cheating but now the thing is i also went through his phone before and i found messages that was from his prevoius girlfriend whom to me i thought they were no longer dating and i didnt say anything to him.before we stated daiting he told me how single he was and its almost a year now that he is been single and i believed him but immediately when he confronted me about my messages he told me how i broke his heart and how he was a changed man because of me that he left his girlfriend of 3 years just to be with me,then i asked him, didnt you say you were single and he said it was just a lie now we keep on fighting a lot for silly things like why i didnt come to his home,he told me i keep posponing that ill come and i never come but thefunny part is when i ask him to come to my home he says im staying far,he doesnt have a car and he cant use a taxi to come and visit me,now im really stressed because i love the guy but he is acting like i dont know,he wants to tell me whom should i speak with,who should call me,whom should i be friend with and i get bored, and i also love the one i was cheatting with because he is understable,caring he doesnt choose friends for me so i am just confused should i leave him,am i being selfish or what?please help!!!! 😕

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]should i leave him,am i being selfish or what?[/quote]

I can see why you’re confused, because reading your post, I’m a little confused about your question. Yes, you’re being selfish — people who cheat are selfish because they’re not being honest with their partners because they want what they want when they want it. I’m sure you already know that.

I’m not sure if you should leave because I’m not sure what it is you want. If you want a monogamous, healthy relationship, then cheating isn’t the way to get it. If you want to play the field, then you should probably be honest with yourself that that’s what you’re doing. Know what YOU want first and foremost, and then you’ll get rid of a lot of the confusion.

I hope that helps!

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