First of all, for future, please start a brand new post when you have a question that doesn’t relate to the one you’re replying to. That way you have your own string of posts and you don’t invade someone else’s. 😮
That said, if your wife is violent and hitting you, you need to take that violence seriously. Move out of the house so that you are safe, and if you can’t get safe, call the police and ask them to help you. There is no place in any relationship for violence, and you must put a boundary in place that keeps you (and her) safe. So do that first.
If she can find a way to deal with her life that doesn’t involve violence, then you can have a relationship together, but if she can’t, there is no relationship to be had. You can’t always be worrying that something will make her so upset she will resort to violence with you — or anyone else.
Her depression is understandable. Losing work and being in a new country without the benefit of normal support systems is hard. That said, she should try to rebuild and recreate support systems that will help her through this tough time. Making new friends and sharing her feelings and her situation is the first step towards getting emotional support as well as information about new jobs. Social networking isn’t just good for friendships — it’s a good way to see if anyone knows about employment opportunities.
But remember that bumps in the road are guaranteed in every relationship. If your wife can’t find a non-violent way to handle these times, your relationship is going to be fraught with terrible complications.
I hope that helps. Please let me know how things go.
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