[Winny]

Hello April,
So I met two guys online and I started to date one. He was sweet, loved to cuddle but we ended up ending the relationship due to jobs and lack of a car. I still have strong feeling for him and want him back, and he still has strong feeling for me. He is working seven days a week because he is short on money and it is hard to live in the city that we currently live in. I still live with my parents.
Well I met the other guy today and he is a sweetheart. Very nice, has his own business and house. But I am not attracted to him. I know he likes me and he knows that I am not looking into another relationship. I just got a text from him inviting me to a picnic, which is so romantic but I do not want to lead the guy on. I don`t have the voice to tell him that I only like him as a friend.
I don`t know what to do. I want my ex back once we get things straightened out but I don`t want to break the heart of this new guy.

What do I do,
Winny

[ebonypittman88]

Hi Winny

You need to balance your feelings. You said that you love the first guy but you broke up because of different problems. If you will see each other again and would have a second chance for your romance can you adjust to his way of life. Can you live with him? Well about the other guy who is rich and independent you must say to him what feelings do you have for him. Never lead a guy in false hope.

I guess you should avoid seeing both of them. Give time to relax and unwind.

[AskApril Masini]

I have to agree with the last line of [b]ebonypittman88’s[/b] post. Neither one of them is right for you.

It’s much kinder to tell the guy you’re not interested in, that you’re not interested in him. Leading him on is cruel. Find the courage to do the right thing with him, so he can move on and find someone who is interested in him. That’s the right thing and the kindest thing for you to do. When you put your discomfort ahead of doing the right thing, you’ve got a bigger problem. 😕

As for the guy you broke up with, you weren’t really specific about the reasons for the break up, or your ages, so I’m guessing that your ex-boyfriend didn’t have the time or money to date you, and while you’re living at your parents’ house, your resources are limited, too. It’s very hard to have an adult relationship with a guy who isn’t in a position to really date you, which is what it sounds like was the problem with your ex.

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[ebonypittman88]

I agree with what April said “It’s very hard to have an adult relationship with a guy who isn’t in a position to really date you, which is what it sounds like was the problem with your ex”.

Take time to decide and do not be impulsive with your decisions.

[AskApril Masini]

Happy New Year! Let me know how things are going for you. 😉

I am here to help, and happy to answer any questions you have. 😀

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