This is heartbreaking, and I can feel how much you wish you could undo what happened. But right now, it’s not about convincing him with words or tests it’s about accepting that trust once broken takes time, and sometimes it never fully returns.
You didn’t sleep with that man, but your husband saw enough to believe the worst, and in his heart that image may never fade. The lie detector won’t heal that even if you “pass,” he’s already rewriting the story to make sense of his pain. He’s using anger and accusations to distance himself, because it’s easier than sitting in betrayal.
Your best path now is quiet strength. Stop defending, stop pleading. Focus on your kids, your education, and building stability. Be kind when he contacts you, but don’t chase reconciliation. Let your actions consistency, calm, maturity speak over time. Whether or not he returns, you’ll come out stronger, grounded, and whole again.
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