The signals aren’t that mixed — the problem is that you don’t want to see them for what they are. He’s not committed to you the way you want him to be, and not okay with his dating the field while he figures out if he wants to commit more time to you. If during the month you’ve been dating him he shut you down for three weeks while he dated someone else, two things were happening. First, you mistook this relationship for more than it is. He’s casually dating you. Second, you’re pushing him away by checking in with him to ask him about the state of the relationship[i] after only one month. [/i] 😕 Men hate having those talks about “the relationship” and if any guy hears a woman asking him about his feelings she’s going to come off as a pest. And if you’re checking up on him to find out why he didn’t respond to your text or e-mail, well, you should take the hint, and let [b]him[/b] be the one to chase after[b] you[/b] — not the other way around. Sorry, but you need to know this in order to figure out how to date successfully. Without his having to say how things are going, you’ll know: If a guy likes you a lot, he’ll call you and ask you out on dates. If he doesn’t, he won’t.
My advice is to lighten up and consider him what he is — a guy you’re dating casually who’s playing the field before he commits. If that isn’t interesting to you, then move on and find someone more to your liking! 😉
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