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We’ve been dating for a year and a half. I love him deeply, but there’s one thing that keeps bothering me — his phone habits. He never lets me touch his phone, takes it with him everywhere (even to the bathroom), and flips it face down whenever he gets a notification. I’ve asked him why, and he always says, “You don’t trust me?”
It’s not that I want to invade his privacy, but the secrecy makes me suspicious. Once, I caught a glimpse of a message preview — a girl’s name with a heart emoji. He said it was an inside joke with a friend. Maybe it was. But my instincts tell me something’s not right. I hate feeling paranoid. I don’t want to be the controlling girlfriend, but I also don’t want to ignore red flags.
How do you deal with this kind of situation? Am I being insecure, or is my gut trying to tell me something?

[Mira D’Souza]

That’s a tricky and painful situation… hiding a phone can feel like a red flag, even if he says he’s loyal. Trust is built on transparency, and secretive behavior naturally raises doubts.

You deserve to feel secure and respected in your relationship. It might help to calmly share how his actions make you feel, without accusing, and see if he’s willing to be more open. At the same time, pay attention to your gut—your feelings matter, and ignoring them can eat away at your confidence and peace.

A healthy relationship shouldn’t make you constantly question honesty. You deserve clarity, trust, and peace of mind.

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