I am a married male, I have an ex-girlfriend. We dated for 1 year and broke up in Dec 2004 because I felt that we were incompatible. Though she did not mind/care about the incompatibility issues we had.
Two main reasons why we parted ways:
1. We differ in Christian faith. I was protestant and she was catholic and was not ready to follow me if we marry instead she wanted me to follow her to catholic church.
2. She was always nagging me, blaming me and accusing me of hurting her.
I was not ready for such a union.
I moved on and later got married in Nov 2005.
In 2006, I relocated out of the country. My ex still did not let go. She kept asking me why I hurt her by breaking off our relationship. And I kept ignoring the question because she knows the simple answer “we were incompatible”.
In 2007, she continued bugging me, I would try chatting with her, but she keeps going back to the comment that I really hurt her.
In 2008, she was still accusing me of hurting her by ending our relationship.
In Jan 2009, she continued the nagging and I got pissed off and stopped all communication with her.
In Jul 2009, Dec 2009, Jul 2010, Apr 2011 she sent me such mails/msgs. I ignored them all. Hoping that she would forget about me and move on but she did not/had not.
In Aug 2012 she sent me a mail. Saying..“I know you have moved ahead with your life and so do I , but want to let you know that you really hurt me . Reply”
So I thought about it and decided to respond in a bid to end this issue, I told her I was sorry about our break up. That she should move on and look towards the future.
She immediately replied that she wants to know why I treated her badly. That I should call her; that she would like to hear from me; that I had hurt her deeply.
I have a soft spot for her and once I start calling, it might drift into flirting with her. We both know this. So I am avoiding it. It could affect my marriage.
She is still single at 35yrs. We were close friends, but that was 8 years ago. I would want us to still remain friends, but her nagging puts me off.
Please how do I deal with this lady?
Do I keep ignoring her or start chatting with her and appeasing her?
Any other options? Please advice.
