[qwerty17]

Hi guys, I am new to this forum. I have absolutely no experience dating nor have I ever asked a girl out. Anyways, I met this girl in this French course I signed up for last week. She’s 16 (I’m 17) and she’s from Europe and is living with her aunt for the summer (has to leave at the end of the month). I have found several other girls attractive before but something about her is pushing me to ask her out. She’s extremely pretty (imho out of my league) and usually I wouldn’t even dare pursue a girl like that. However, she seems way more friendly, “nice” and innocent than the other girls.

Our class is pretty small (~ 5 people & I’m the only guy) and we’re all about the same age. We all talk a lot to each other and yesterday we decided to go hang out in downtown after our class. It was fun and I’ve managed to strike up several conversations with her over the week and she seems to enjoy talking to me and smiles a lot.

Anyways getting to the point, our course finishes in 2 weeks and I was thinking about asking her out to the movies or something on the last day. I understand it’s silly considering that she is going to leave in a couple weeks but I know for sure that I’d regret it if I didn’t. I am not looking for much. I just want to get to spend some time with her alone.

Do you think it’s a good idea? If so, please give some suggestions as to where to go on the first date.

Please also consider that:
-I dont have a cell phone (I don’t work at the moment and can’t really afford one)
-If I do ask her out on the last day of the class (August 16th), the earliest I will be able to get together would be the 22nd because I am going away for the week in between.
-I am extremely busy in the evenings because of training sessions with my college team so I would ask to meet her somewhere between, say 12:00 and 4:00 pm. Is that a weird time for a date?

Thank you for being patient enough to read through all this info 🙂

[JackB]

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Do you think it’s a good idea?
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Yes. I’ve chickened out many times when I was your age, and I’ve regretted it later, so just go for it. From how you describe her, she certainly doesn’t seem like the type who is going to laugh at you or mock you, even if she doesn’t want to go on a date. At the very least, she’ll probably just be flattered that you asked. And, it sounds like there’s a good chance she’ll even say yes.

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If so, please give some suggestions as to where to go on the first date.
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It really depends on what she enjoys doing! I generally steer clear of going to movies, though, simply because you don’t really get to interact with each other much, other than possibly hand-holding or whatever. Since you’re friendly with her, you must have some idea of what she likes to do, right? Or something that she said she’d like to try doing?

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I would ask to meet her somewhere between, say 12:00 and 4:00 pm. Is that a weird time for a date?
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Well, it’s not the most common time for a date, but there’s no rule against it. I’ve gone on dates in those hours, and in a way they’re nice because they tend to be a bit less stressful, which is great particularly on a first date. It allows you to both relax and feel more casual around each other than you might if you were going out at night. Another benefit of going out in daylight is that you can do more outdoors stuff– go to a park, or a beach, or if you’re both sporty, go for a bike ride together, and then stop for a picnic. You get the idea.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[b]JackB[/b] gave you great advice. 😀

Ask her out in person, and get her phone number. Having a date during the day is fine! Have your schedule in mind, and try to take her out on the first available date because you seem pretty crushed by your calendar. And don’t be afraid! If you don’t get up to bat, you don’t get a chance to swing at the ball. The best players in baseball (and life) are the ones who take chances and put themselves out there. 😉

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