[danceandlove]

I think my friend ruined the chase.. I waited for the guy to chase me and take initiative and he finally has started and seemed to be getting more and more interested. I made the mistake of telling my friend about him, who went up to his friend (her friend also) and asked what his name was/if he was single, etc. He asked if she was the one that was interested and said that he would hook her up with him and she said “no it’s my friend” (i was standing right by her, it was so obvious it was me that she was referring to me). now his friend is going to go to him and tell him (i’m assuming) and it’s going to seem like i am the one chasing him now and i’m scared i just lost him because of this. is there anything i can do to fix this? and make it seem like he’s the one chasing me again? should i avoid the places that i run into him a few times a week at perhaps? ugh.

this was the first time i trying to be the ‘prize’ and she messed it all up!! i really need to turn it around. he’s too good of a guy to lose a chance with

Thanks April!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You can’t fix it, but you can talk to your friend and explain what happened and why you don’t want her to do that again. If she did it because she thought she was helping, you need to let her know you didn’t want her to do that and you don’t want her to do it in the future. If she just wasn’t thinking, then you need to educate her a little and let her know what’s on your radar and how her behavior can interfere with your social life. She might be very glad to understand how things really work! 😉

That said, I don’t think you should avoid the places you’ll see him, and the reality is YOU didn’t do anything wrong. You might want distance yourself a little from her when you know he’s going to be around until you’re more sure that she “gets it” and is on the same page you are when it comes to guys! 😉

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[danceandlove]

Yeah, I did explain it to her and she said she isn’t going to say anything to her anymore. I’m just worried that his interest in me is going to be gone now 🙁

Thanks

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It may be. 😕 But he may realize that it was she who goofed up and not you. 😉

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