Hello everyone,
Thanks for reading this and providing me comments and thoughts.
I have been with my girlfreind now for 6 months. We regularly talk about how much we are in love, how we have found eachother’s “one”, how we want to get married and have kids etc.
About 4 years ago a guy she was seeing for about 1 year tragically took his own life whilst they were together. I cant start to imagine how hard this was for her at the time. It has now approached the time where the anniversary of his death is here. During this time, she goes through all their old love letters, photos of just them two in romantic and loving themes, vidoes of them kissing and telling each other how much they love each other and she also posts messages up on facebook telling everyone how much she misses him.
I’m having mixed thoughts on how I feel about this. I really want to be able to support her but I feel uncormfortable about what she has not let go and feel that she should not be bringing the “strong love component” of their old relationship into ours. I feel that she needs to remember him as a person always, but I strongly believe that there needs to be bounderies for what she should be doing around this time of year if she truely wants to move on and fall in love again. We seem to disagree and we have both spoken to our own freinds about it and her freinds have a completely different opion to my freinds. So I was hoping to get a non bias discussion going on this. Please provide me some feedback on what you believe is appropriate in this situation as I would really like to show further support and not let this be a challenge in our relationship.
