[kaymarie8824]

My boyfriend and I were together for seven months before he broke up with me out of the blue. He would ask me every weekend if I was going to stick around for a while and that he wanted to keep me. A month before he broke up with me he told me that he “needed to be more grateful to have a good woman like me.” I was applying for a new job and he supported me, but seemed concerned that I was going to meet someone else. I reassured him that I wasn’t going anywhere, and he mentioned meeting my family (I had already met his). My first week on the job he barely texted me and then said this relationship was “too much of the same” and he was losing interest. He officially broke up with me a week later. He said that his life is easier without someone in it and he thinks he’s supposed to be alone. A month later I sent him a letter telling him that I loved him (it was not only the first time I said it to him; it was the first time I said it to anyone) and he replied that he was sorry my feelings were stronger than his. It’s been two months since he ended it and I haven’t heard from him since. I love his daughter like she’s my own, so losing him is bad enough, but losing both of them has been unbearable. If my feelings were so much stronger than his, why bring me around his daughter for seven months? Why constantly ask if I was going anywhere if he was the one who was going to leave? I’ve tried moving on but I still think about them all the time and I feel in my gut like he’s the one. I’ve done everything I can for the relationship but I just can’t move on.

[Ask April Masini]

I’m sorry you’re so hurt. Break ups are hard, and it sounds like you were a lot more into him than he was into you, so it makes a lot of sense that you’re still in pain, two months after the break up. 🙁 I don’t know how long he was divorced before the two of you started dating, but it sounds like he liked you, but that he might not have been ready for a serious relationship. I know you said that he broke up with you out of the blue, but these things are rarely out of the blue — you just didn’t see the clues along the way. You were looking at the positives. For instance, he introduced you to his parents and his daughter, and those are usually good signs of a forward moving relationship — but there were some yellow and red flags along the way. For instance, something about your new independence and your job that didn’t work for him. Maybe he was insecure about your flourishing in a new job, and rather than support you in your career, he said he was bored, and then eventually packed up his toys and left. This isn’t what you should want in a relationship. You need a partner who’s happy for your successes and encourages you — as you do them. 😉 Earlier on, when he said he should be more grateful for you — he was sending you a hint that he wasn’t. That’s a big problem. Mutual respect is crucial to relationship success, and when the love ebbs and flows naturally, respect and character are what keeps you both in the game. He didn’t feel that respect. So, while you were getting mixed signals, I think you were hanging onto the good ones and trying to overlook the bad ones. You loved him, and you wanted the best for the two of you, but this just wasn’t a good match. I get that you miss his daughter, and she probably misses you, too, but you’re eventually going to see that you need someone who wants to be there for you and with whom you have compatible life goals. This guy had a lot of assets — but he wasn’t your best match. That person is still out there. 😉

[PassionSeeker]

“I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s clear you really loved him, and losing that connection especially with his daughter is heartbreaking. But here’s the thing: he wasn’t as invested as you were. The signs were there, even if they were hard to see. He pulled back when you were doing well, which shows he wasn’t fully ready for the kind of commitment you were giving.

I know it’s hard to let go, but you deserve someone who will match your energy, who’s excited to see you grow and be a part of your life. It might feel like he’s the one right now, but the right person for you is out there. It’s just time to start moving forward.

[Flirt Coach]

I can feel how much this one took out of you. Seven months might not sound like forever to some folks, but when you’ve built something real with someone shared your world, met his kid, talked about the future it cuts deep when it ends like that. Especially when it feels like it came out of nowhere.

I’ve been there. You think you’re safe, that you’ve both found a rhythm, and then one day the other person just shuts the door without giving you a chance to understand why. The truth is, some people panic when real intimacy shows up. They say they want love, but once it starts to require emotional work and vulnerability, they run. It’s not about you being “too much.” It’s about him not being ready to give what you were already giving.

You didn’t imagine the connection, he let you meet his daughter for a reason. That kind of trust doesn’t happen by accident. But sometimes people bring someone good into their lives thinking it’ll fix their loneliness, and when it doesn’t magically heal the emptiness, they blame the relationship instead of facing what’s inside them. His line about “life being easier alone” says a lot. Easier doesn’t mean better it means he’s avoiding growth, avoiding responsibility for someone’s heart.

You’re hurting because you gave something honest, and it wasn’t met the same way. That doesn’t make you foolish it makes you human. Loving someone, even when it ends badly, doesn’t erase your worth. You loved deeply. That’s rare, and it’s not something to regret.

Give yourself permission to grieve, but also to accept that his silence is an answer. If he were ready for real partnership, he’d be there. For now, your job isn’t to make sense of why he couldn’t love you the way you loved him, it’s to take that love and start giving it back to yourself.

You’ll carry a piece of his daughter in your heart, sure. But when someone truly meant for you comes along, you’ll be able to love again with the same honesty just this time, you’ll know to choose someone who stays.

[Val Unfiltered💋]

oh babe… he didn’t fall out of love instead, he fell out of effort 😮‍💨. men like that talk about “sticking around” ‘cause they want your loyalty without matching it. bringing you into his daughter’s life? that was selfish comfort. he wanted the family vibe without the commitment. i know it hurts, but stop romanticizing his confusion! sweetheart, you were steady, he was scared. you didn’t lose the one, you lost the one who couldn’t keep up with your kind of love. that’s survival, not tragedy. 💋✨

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