[Tara]

Let’s call this what it is. The relationship is over, and what you’re really asking is how to stop the bleeding.
You didn’t just lose his trust; you destroyed the foundation it stood on. You lied, manipulated, and used his emotions out of fear. That’s not love; that’s control. Once trust is gone, no amount of begging or waiting for healing time will bring it back. He isn’t walking away because he hates you. He’s walking away because the chaos has drained him completely.
You need therapy, not to win him back, but to figure out why you equate desperation with love. You keep confusing emotional panic for devotion. You don’t fight for someone you’ve repeatedly broken; you let them go and start fixing what made you self-destruct in the first place.
So, no. Don’t contact him. Don’t chase him. Don’t wait for him to come back. He might, but that doesn’t matter. Right now, you’re toxic to anything that gets close to you.
You don’t heal this relationship. Let him go.

[Sally]

What happened between you and him is complicated, but right now the most important thing is not whether he comes back, it’s that you start getting real help for yourself. You’ve been through trauma, made desperate choices, and are trying to find your way out. That takes strength, not shame.

If he decides to leave, let that be his choice. You can’t fix the past or make him trust you again overnight. What you can do is focus on becoming stable, healthy, and safe for yourself and for your kids. Go to therapy, stay close to people who support you, and give yourself time to heal. If he ever comes back, it should be because he sees real change, not because you begged. Right now, take care of yourself first. You still have a life to rebuild, and that’s where your energy belongs.

[Natalie Noah]

It’s a lot there’s pain, fear, regret, love, desperation… all tangled together. And the thing I feel most strongly is that you were surviving. You were trying to keep yourself and your kids safe in the only ways you could see at the time. That doesn’t erase mistakes, but it gives them context it makes them human.

I can tell you really love this man, and you’ve reflected deeply on what you did. That self-awareness is huge it’s rare and it’s honest. You see where you hurt him, you see where you acted out of fear, and you’re taking responsibility. That’s the first step to any real change.

But… here’s the truth, gently: love alone sometimes isn’t enough to fix a relationship. He’s allowed to need space. He’s allowed to doubt. Healing trust takes time, and it has to be mutual. You cannot force him to forgive, and trying to push it can end up pushing him further away.

At the same time, forgiving yourself is critical. You’ve carried so much guilt, and it’s eating at you. You can’t change the past, but you can shape your future with or without him. You can become the kind of person who loves deeply but also respects boundaries, honesty, and self-care.

If I were to give advice as I feel it:
Give him space, but stay compassionate. Let him process without pressure.
Keep focusing on your healing, therapy, self-reflection, rebuilding trust in yourself.
Accept uncertainty, you may reconcile, you may not. Either way, you’ll be stronger, wiser, and more grounded.
Forgive yourself fully, the love you feel for him doesn’t vanish because of mistakes. It can coexist with growth and accountability.

Love is messy, human, and sometimes painful. What you did doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you human, scared, and desperate. And that’s okay. You can learn from this, grow from this, and still find love, whether it’s with him or someone else. My heart goes out to you. You’ve carried so much, and you’re still trying, still reflecting, still loving. That takes courage… real courage.

[KeishaMartin]

It’s messy, seductive, uncomfortable, and very human. This story isn’t about porn, lies, or even betrayal. It’s about desperation mixed with fear and desire, and how that cocktail makes people do reckless, self-sabotaging things in the name of love. She didn’t act from confidence or freedom. She acted from survival mode, shame, and panic. That doesn’t make the behavior right, but it makes it understandable. What’s provocative here is how love got twisted into control: breaking him down so he wouldn’t leave. That’s not romance that’s emotional hunger biting too hard.

The real scandal isn’t what she did, it’s why she couldn’t stop lying even after being caught. Lies became foreplay for control, a way to keep intimacy without vulnerability. And once trust is sexually, emotionally, and morally violated, you don’t just “fight harder” to fix it you step back or you burn the house down trying. April Masini shines here by making one thing crystal clear: love doesn’t excuse chaos. Passion doesn’t cancel accountability. And forgiveness without change is just another seductive lie whispered in the dark.

What’s deliciously controversial is how everyone wanted to crucify her yet life proved them wrong. She healed. She grew. She outgrew the man she thought was “the one.” That plot twist is everything. AskApril’s closing response is pure class: compassionate without enabling, validating growth without romanticizing damage. Compliment where it’s due, April Masini has a rare talent for holding empathy in one hand and responsibility in the other, and not dropping either. That balance is sexy because it’s honest.

This kind of emotional explosion hits harder during Christmas. Christmas parties amplify loneliness, Christmas breakups cut deeper, and holiday lights don’t hide guilt, they spotlight it. People swear they’ll change by New Year’s, drunk on eggnog and regret, clinging to love like it’s a lifeboat. This story keeps people hooked because it asks the forbidden question: Can love survive betrayal or does survival mean walking away hotter, wiser, and finally free?

[Member]

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