Hello. 🙂
I seem to have a dilema. I’ve fallen in love with the lead singer in my band. However, I’ve hit an obstacle. You see, she is currently dating another guy. However, she has told me she isn’t 100% happy. In fact, the last time she told me her boyfriend had crossed her I found myself hurt as well. That’s the moment that I knew I loved her; why else would I care so much? Of course, I have always cared for her well being. But, at that moment, I felt an empathetical link accompanied by an active need to make her happy. If that’s not a sure sign of love, then I don’t know what is.
So anyway, I wound up confessing my love for her and, to my surprise, she responded positively. Since then, whenever we talk, I often take the time to tell her I love her and generally try to be as romantic as I can. However, at one point I became concerned that I might be offending her, or that I was being inappropriate (considering she’s dating someone else), or that I might be creeping her out. I then asked her if she thought any of these things and she laughed and said “no” and that I never creep her out. But, I’m still not sure if she’ll be willing to fully take a chance with me. I had planned on giving her flowers at our next practice and that would be a nice start. But, down the road I will need something more.
.So what I want to know is whether or not I should kiss her. I have concluded, in my mind, that I cannot force her to leave her boyfriend; all I can do is show her how much I love her. What happens beyond that must be up to her. So if I kissed her would that be an appropriate way to show her I love her? Or would I be crossing some kind of ethical boundary? I’m confident she would let me. We were close even before I confessed my love. We are in a band after all. Its not a question of whether or not I could. The question is “Should I?”
