[imfourie]

Well, here we go. I have been in a relationship for a year now. In the begining it was perfect. We couldnt take our eye’s of each other and pasionatly every thing was super in bed. After a while things started changing. I caught her sms’ing other guys and then deleting the msg’s . I yhen confronted her and as you all know its my fault for invading her personal space . Then i found her chating to another guy on facebook. And then again on other messages. I know she says its only friends but why delete or hide it from me then? Anyway, our sex life has gone down the drain and i cant remember when last she toutched me or kissed me. I am a compasionate close type of guy that loves the cuddeling ,kisses etc. Well she is now pregnant with our first kid and i also caught her now checking out her x husbands and x boyfriends profiles and she chattes the hole day on bbm and ignores me. Its like we are living seperate lives. If i complain or tell her im going to leave she just says she doesnt care and just do what you want. I do understand that we did move about 5 months ago to a new place and she doesnt have any friends here. But chatting the hole day non stop on your bbm or facebook and not giving your husband to be any love or kisses or ignoring me in bed? I just dont know what im doing wrong? Any tips out there or some one that can help would be apprisiated.

[Magnetized]

Have you tried counseling or meeting with you pastor/priest? An elder at your church may be able to offer some suggestions as well. As I have found out once a cheater always a cheater the problem doesn’t go away. I wish you the best in trying to find some peace and happiness in your marriage. God Bless!

[trblinparadise]

I have my own problems that I can not answer, but we ask for someone not involved to help us see clearly because love is blind sometimes, understandable!
She disconnected from you sadly 🙁 Something went off track somewhere. Women only disconnect usually when they are getting their emotional needs met elsewhere. If they are into you, they fight for you and the relationship, and then thats when you guys call us nagging. If she is not nagging you about the relationship and is being sneaky, she is not into the relationship. If your gut says she’s being unfaithful chance are, she is!
You sound like a nice guy, and like most of us in love, you are fighting for your relatioship. You can’t change her but you can change yourself, and it appears you do not have much vested in this relationship to take much emotional abuse..Stand up to her and tell her you deserve love and respect and if she does not give it, move over and let someone else do it! If you are not ready for this yet, then be quite and withdrawn yourself, that drives women crazy!!! Good Luck 🙂

[imfourie]

Thanks, i know she hasnt been unfaithfull but just trying to chat with other men and hiding it isnt right . We do sit in a weired spot as we have a store together and i do understand we are in each others faces often. Correct me if im wrong. I am the romantic ,loving type of guy that always put my wife first. I just dont understand why if you are in a relationship , why would she be chatting to 16 diferent friends the whole day and then when you get to a message its about how tired she is of your shit etc. I mean since we have met i have never been touthed or anything romantic has been done from her side. Its a year and i do complain often about her making a effort to mabe have a romantic night or just try from her side or kiss me or do something. But the more i ask the more it falls on death ears. I am just trying to understand why she would rather chat the whole day to her friends ,always have a excuse not to make love and never do anything from her side. I feel a woman is suppose to do something nice for the one she loves look after him and be romantic or try to be. Isnt that what a relation ship is based on to try and make your partner happy in any way you can? IF I COMPLAIN ABOUT HER CHATTING THE WHOLE DAY ON HER PHONE OR A MAIL I GOT OF HER CHATTING WITH OTHER MEN THEN SHE GETS AGRESSAVE AND ATTACKS ME AND SAYS I HAVE GOT NOTHING TO DO WITH HER PRIVACY AND MAKES IT ALL MY FAULT AND I SHOULD STOP DRIVING HER TO DO THINGS LIKE CHECKING OUT HER X BOYFRIEND ON FACEBOOK?? ANY IDEA’S ?? I REALLY LOVE HER AND WHANT TO MAKE OUR RELATIONSHIP WORK.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

She’s looking to other men for attention because she isn’t satisfied in this relationship. You can try to win her over rather than criticize her and try to stop her from doing what she’s doing. My advice is to try and win her over like you did when you were first dating her.

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