[Maria]

You’re holding on to the version of her that loved you, not the one that left. That’s why it feels impossible to move on, because your heart is still living in the “what if.” But from what you’ve shared, she’s already showing you who she is: uncertain, inconsistent, and playing emotional ping-pong. Those random messages aren’t signs of rebuilding; they’re crumbs meant to keep you close while she figures herself out.

You’ve already done the chasing. Stop feeding the loop. If she truly wants you, she’ll make space for you, not keep disappearing when it suits her. Take your focus off convincing her to see you again and put it on remembering what you deserve, stability, honesty, and someone who’s sure about you.

Tell me something, are you really trying to win her back, or are you trying to win back the feeling of being wanted?

[Marcus king]

You’re reading her mixed signals right, he’s keeping you close enough for comfort, but not close enough for commitment. That back-and-forth means she’s not ready to let you go, yet not ready to choose you either.

If you keep chasing, you’ll end up in a loop where she controls the tempo and you carry the hope. Pull back a little. Match her effort, if she disappears, let her. Don’t fill the silence. When she reaches out, keep it friendly but light, no heavy emotions.

That space will tell you everything. If she misses the peace and consistency you bring, she’ll come forward genuinely. If not, you’ll already be standing steady, not waiting. You can want her deeply and still know you deserve someone who’s sure about you.

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