[Ccpino]

Ok, so I met this guy about 4 days ago and we seemed to really hit off. It was at a bar and we had great coversation and flirted like crazy. It turns out his younger sister and I knew eachother in school and some how I never met him until now. He seemed like he was very into me, but now I’m not so sure. He had oppurtunity to kiss me that night but he didn’t he hugged me good bye at the end of the night. I texted him later saying I’d like to hang out again sometime, but he did not respond (it was late). I texted him the next night asking him what he was doing and he didn’t repsond then either. The next morning his pocket kept calling me so I texted him to let him know, he texted back that his phone does that and that he was pretty busy at work and would not likely have time to go out until next week. I told him no worries but that I would be out of town then and to let me know if he would like to get dinner or drinks sometime. He responded that it sounded good and to have fun. The last time we texted was early yesterday afternoon. I cannot stop thinking about him and how weird it is that we just met. Is there anything else I can do to get him to ask me out? Does it even seem like he is into me? Help would be appreciated!

[AskApril Masini]

Yikes! Stop chasing him!! 😕 You’re not giving this crush any reason to be the guy in a relationship with you when you take the male role — and take it away from him. He doesn’t want to be the girl, and frankly, from the sound of it, he’s turned off.

When you start asking him out, texting him over and over, and pushing for him to meet your schedule, you’re not looking like a winner in the dating game. You’re looking desperate.

It’s been 4 days since you met him, and you’ve really pushed him away. My advice is to stop, immediately, texting him, contacting him and thinking about him. He has your number. If he wants to date you, he’ll contact you. But for now, I think you’ve blown it.

Next time you meet someone you like, flirt away, but make sure that you give the guy something to chase (not someone who’s throwing herself at him), because that’s what guys like. They want to feel like the man, and they want to feel that the woman they’re chasing is a prize to be won — not a booby prize to be picked up at the door on the way out. 🙁

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